Help I'm confused and lost
Please don't judge me on this situation I'm just looking for helpful feedback. I don't know where to start with this, but I guess I can start with a little background on the situation. So I was dating this guy and we ended it in a mutual agreement because his job wanted him to go to a different state and I couldn't follow due to my job. We still remain friends throughout the years. I began dating someone new a year and a half later. We decided to get married last year, but shortly after we got married he changed and started to treat me completely different. We spent sometime with my parents due to their visit to see me and they noticed how he treats me and they told me how they feel and I agree. Well I was talking to my friend (ex-boyfriend) and he still treats me like a queen. My current husband try's to change everything about me and complains about certain things I do and nags about other things. When I talk to my friend he notices that I don't act the same as I did before and tells me that my husband shouldn't try to change me and that he would never and has never tried to change me. I'm lost on what to do because I still have feelings for my ex and he does me, but I have feelings for my husband, but not like they were before we got married. I stress myself out everyday trying to decide what's right for me and my life, but can't handle the stress anymore.
I suppose some of your husband's demands might be reasonable, and you can accede to his requests in those cases (make sure your ego does not come in between). But if you feel he wants to change you in a manner you don't like, talk to him and pour your heart out. A heart to heart talk can solve most of the problems. Be firm but not obstinate. Maybe try to look at things from your husband's point of view. Try to be good to him and see if he responds. For now don't think too much about your ex as it might complicate the situation.
Let things happen without worrying about them too much and who knows, they might sort out themselves.
My husband and I have had heart to heart talks and he doesn't really listen to what I say and pushes aside my feelings on things alot of the time. He expects me to work full time while I'm already going to school full time and still find time to workout, clean our house, take care of our pets, homework, sleep, and cook. I can only do so much in a day because there are only so many hours in a day and he doesn't help me with the cleaning, cooking, or taking care of our pets. I just feel too overwhelmed with so much on my plate and how he puts expectations on me. I've told him I feel overwhelmed and have asked him for help, but he makes excuses of why he can't do something or says oh ill do it in a little bit, but never does it so I wind up doing it. I've tried to be the caring understanding wife with his job, but I've also done the same job he's doing and it may be long hours, but it's easy and it's not like he works everyday. I get to the point I get so stressed from everything that I've been not sleeping and not eating and if I do eat I get sick to my stomach. I wish he would see things from my prospective and not only think that he is always right.