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Relationship advice I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 and a half months right now. After a rocky start, we both became very happy and committed to one another. I have come to adore and love him in a very cautious way, as my last relationship left me unfortunately devastated. In my previous serious relationships, I have come to realize I have a little known form of OCD dubbed "rOCD." For those of you that aren't aware of what that is, it is having unwanted, negative, and persistent thoughts about a relationship, that are typically created in the mind itself where there is not really a problem. I also suffer from mild to moderate anxiety and an even milder depression. I constantly worry now that I am going to exhaust my boyfriend on my issues. I wish there was a way I could hide that part of me sometimes so I didn't have to feel like such a burden at times. And partly, I'm sure I exaggerate that feeling in my head. He has assured me so many times that he loves every single thing about me, and nothing I do at this point could scare him off. He adores me and is wonderful and I couldn't be more grateful to have him around. Because of that, I wish that I could be less selfish in my ways in that I could be less moody or down or just generally ugh occasionally. And then I have to remind myself- it's not that often! Everybody has their bad days and he loves me for who I am and I for he. My question is, does anybody have any advice on how to quiet this conflicting voice in my mind so that I can better just enjoy my relationship instead of worrying about what he's thinking of my worrying, etc.?? Thank you! Hope this made sense...

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if the situation was reverse (you boyfriend is a complete worrywart) wouldn't it just exhaust you?
i personally dont know you, but i think you have a good heart.. and just have a tendency to over-think just like me (and every other girl in this planet). the thing with being anxious about everything is that the more you think about it-the more it becomes you. what consumes your mind, rules your life. so think happy thoughts and rid yourself of these emotional baggage. what happened in your life already happened, and what will come eventually will if it is meant for you. your boyfriend is lucky to have you. :)

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