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After getting out of a 5 year relationship, I started seeing people again. I've been seeing this guy for about a month now. I would say, our relationship went really fast; a little too fast for my liking. After our first date, we already had sex. When we first started seeing each other, everything was going great. We hung out pretty much everyday. We would have lunch, go to the beach, sleep at each others apartment. After about 2 weeks in after having sex, things kinda changed after this one conversation we had. We were having lunch one day and he goes on to tell me that when school starts up again, his schedule is going to get really busy, and in the future he's thinking of reenlisting in the Navy and that he may be relocated somewhere else so, he didn't want anything serious at the time. After he told me that, I did get a little upset and confused but I didn't say anything to him at the time when I should have. It's like, why start something with me when you know you don't want anything serious? I felt led on and used. After that conversation, we didn't hang out everyday like before but he still contacts me to either hang out or have lunch. Which got me even more confused because why would you still want to keep me around if you don't want anything serious? As of right now, our relationship is going well. We still spend time together. Its not so awkward as before after that one conversation we had. We still had sex every once in a while. I know I shouldn't be doing that because it'll only hurt me more in the end. But I can't help these feelings that I have for him. I want to tell him how I feel so badly but I always had a hard time expressing my feelings to people. Knowing that this guy doesn't want anything serious, do you guys think that he's just using me to have "fun" and only sees me as some summer fling? Or is there hope that he does genuinely have feelings for me and want something more? My plan was to talk to him and tell him that we should keep our relationship more on a friendship level rather than a sexual one. Because I feel like sex complicates things. With sex comes feelings and with feelings comes with someone getting hurt. And I'm scared of getting hurt again. But I'm also scared that if I tell him that, he won't talk to me anymore. And I really like this guy and I like spending time with him. I just don't know what to do? Someone help me...

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Hello, I think maybe the best thing to do is just talk to him, he may reassure you, or help you make a decision, ask him how sure he is that he's moving away, ask him where he sees your relationship going, by his answer you'll b able to answer your questions, if its making you feel terrible your better off just leaving....no point in being unhappy....

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He may not be ready to settle down and wants to be a "free" man. I mean having no strings attached so he can go out and have fun. I am not sure what type of person he is, but if he does not want anything serious and you do, than he is not the man for you or he may not be ready at this time. My suggestion, if you have feelings for him and he is still around, break off communication for two weeks or so. Don't even tell him that you are going to do that. Maybe he will also start getting suspicious as well, this may also allow him to get his head straight and find out what he really wants. I know it will be hard because you will be very curious on what he is doing, but once you stop communicating for a little while, you will start to feel relieved. http://jw-jtrh.wix.com/1982

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