From Brazil, best regards
So here I am, asking for advice online. I must admit, however, that there is no one I feel that I can speak so freely. The thing is that Im in the 2nd year of high school, Im black, 15 yr old, 5.91 ft tall, 174.17 lb, almost well built because I have a roundy belly that I cant take out, wear glasses (Im quite blind lol) and Im also nerdy, being extremely good at all subjects, while I like classical music (I have more than 6 years playing my trusty cello), playing games (Dota 2 da best) and being chivalric to girls. I also study at one of the best schools here is São Paulo, which is also very elitist, also a reason for why Im here. The problem starts here. Ive always been attracted to white, cute girls, basically. However, Im timid when its about speaking alone with them, and to this very day Ive never kissed a girl. Not that Im apatic -I have a lot of friends, all of them like me, but most are white. Im asking for help because I dont know what I should do. Im chivalric all of the time, but bitter at some guys (typical jerks), especially in my school, where they listen to "black" music, while I just plainly hate it. What really troubles me is that Im not that good looking and no girl ever looked twice at me, so I feel extremely bad about myself. Yes, I can get the best grades, be romantic and chivalric, appreciate classical and play some instruments, hell, I even make poesy at times. But it doesnt matter. Please someone who read this wall of text, help me, Im sad and lonely. I want cute and kind girl to stand by me :,(
Hi ya Dremons,
Don't rush your life, you have so many good qualities that later will make you a better person then those fakers! If you want to talk to a girl (who care what race they are...a girl is a girl!) then start observing things that they like, this lets a girl know you are will to take notice of the little things she does (just don't go stalking! that's not cool!) Then use those things she does to pay a compliment and then quickly walk away, do this a couple of time and she will become curious about you :P
Part of making friends is liking things they like coz dude your life is so full on with studies at this stage (as it should be) but getting out to mix will also open doors and make you not so nervous about being around girls. Hang in there, dating is not easy and if you find it is easy then maybe its too good to be true?
Write me if you want, happy to talk
I agree with IB2CUTE in that getting out a tiny bit more in social situations (outside of school). Will make you more comfortable about random situations, talking to girls and people in general, and your confidence and loneliness will decrease.
AND speaking for experience, at your age, ALL people are doing is trying to do is to fit in, be "cool' etc. Its part of being a teen, it has always been this way in social mammals.
BUT this will change! In a couple of years or so, your skills ans personal traits will become the popular ones. Playing instruments, being smart, being different, will be a HUGE advantage when it comes to picking up girls, getting peoples respect and more! TRUST me, your current efforts will pay off big time!
Hang in there my friend /cheers from Sweden