Girlfriend / relationship problems
Okay so (not putting down this site or anyone one it) I'm desperate on this to turn to an Internet forum for help but hopefully someone with more life experience than me can help me out. I've been dating a girl for about 4 months. On the outside she comes off as super happy and bubbly. A change from some of the crazy cunts I've dated. (Pardon my French) but she is always sad. She says she's happy to be with me and happy with me but as soon as I go home she gets morbidly depressed about family issues, self esteem, and just about everything else. She self harms an I've been trying to get her to stop but she won't. I keep telling her all I want is for her to be happy and supportive. I have to put aside my emotions to try to comfort her just about every night. Today I lost a loved one and am very sad about it. I can't push aside these feelings and today I saw cuts all over her. I talked to her and she said she wants to help but is very sad and hates herself. She even started talking about suicide. She can't get professional help because of money and no matter what I did I couldn't make her happy and now when I need her help she's sad again to. What can I do with her? How can I make her happy or help her stop self harming. I love her and don't want to leave her but I need her help through my hard times right now and she isn't there because she's depressed about her own problems. What can I do?
About a year and a half ago i went through almost this exact situation, except i was like your girlfriend. I self harmed and attempted suicide more than once due to family issues and a number of other things , but i would rather not get into too much detail with that. When you are depressed it's hard to admit to yourself let alone someone you love and someone you know cares about you. There's not really anything any one person can do to help someone out of depression, she needs to know that she has lots of people that love and care about her. I don't know your your exact sircumstances, but my advice to you is to let her know how much she is loved. You could also try and talk to her about her problems, and there is also counsellors that go without cost at schools and council buildings that you could look into for her. I understand that this must be incredibly hard for you, and i am sorry for your loss. I understand that it is hard to help her at the moment as it's hard to even help yourself at the moment. But this is a time where you really need to help eachother help yourselves. Sometimes it's easier to get though a problem with someone else who is also facing problems. I hope you're girlfriend does recover from this, and i hope you can also recover from this. It's hard to give advice to someone suffering from self harm and suicidal issues because nobody can know exactly what they're going through unless they have been through it them self. I wish you all the best, and i hope you are both able to get through this.