To give up or not to give up??
Never been on a website like this before but I am feeling like I can't cope with anything right now and I don't know where to turn. I am 28 with a 3 year old and been married to my husband for nearly 2 years. He has terrible mood swings where he falls out with me over the silliest things and it can go on for days on end. I decided two weeks ago after a row to move out of the family home and we have been sharing responsibility of our daughter. We have both spent these last couple of weeks going through a roller coaster of emotions and I am torn between whether to go back to him or leave for good. He has made contact with a therapist as he realises he has these angry outbursts where he gets nasty with his tongue and has said he wants to get some help regardless whether we work things out or not. He is has been the same in other relationships too. I guess I just want advice on whether therapy/anger management can actually work. I don't want to give up on my marriage but I also don't want to live my life on ups and downs. I just wanted a happy little family. Thanks ..
First off I want to say good job posting on the site or help and advice. People don't know where to turn these days and its lots of helpful people to give you the shoulder and the advising voice you need. It seems like your pain and frustration with him speaks for itself. See where his head and his heart is before rushing back home. If he is pleasant and genuinely misses you, he will behave as such. If there is still a sharp edge on his attitude and he is still moody, stay gone longer. I hate seeing relationships fail. I believe people meet and are together for a reason. He needs to put forth the efforts and save your marriage. It's not healthy for your daughter to experience all these ups and down because she will be confused as to what is acceptable. No relationship is perfect , yes it's okay to fall in and out of love as long as there is always a committed effort to find your way back to each other. Let him continue to get help and show you his improvements. Make clear your expectations that his behaviors have to change permanently or you are gone for good but, assure him for now you are in his corner for recovery. Love him like God loves us, and you will be just fine. Hugs to you and your daughter.