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Relationship advice I was with my ex for a couple of months when i fell pregnant, I didn't no i was pregnant and left him for someone who im still with now after 5 years and loves me and my little boy to death. He knows my child is not his and has done since i found out i was pregnant i gave him the choice to go and get on with his life but he wanted to stand by me and he has. The biological farther doesn't know about my son but im not hideing the fact that he is the farther i just haven't told him myself. Hes got 2 kids already and takes hard drugs and lives with someone younger than me whos already got 3 kids not the best enviroment for any child. Ive been looking on the net trying to find a good site that i can look up about addoption i would love my boyfriend to be able to addopt our son so we can be a propper family and i wouldnt have the thought in my mind that he can just walk into our lives at any time.

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The first question would be who is listed as the father on your son's birth certificate. If the biological father isn't listed, then adoption shouldn't be a problem. If he is listed, then I'm sure the biological father's permission will be required...that's where you'll fun into trouble (maybe). If I were you and the biological father is listed, I'd keep things as they are because you're already a family now. This is a really tough ethical question though. Everyone has a right to know that they're a parent...but when hard drug use and bad environments come into play, then the best interests of the child are #1. I don't blame you at all in this regard, however, at some time in his life you'll have to tell your son who his bio father is....when he's old and mature enough to deal with it. That would be the right thing to do.

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yeah ,inferior decorator has point about birth cirt. have had issues to do with this and you would HAVE to seek his permission to adopt but because you were not married i dont think he has any parental resposibility, i know if he did find out child was his and heaven forbid wanted to see himthen he would not standd chance in eyes of family courts as the best intrest of child is always considered most important thing when making any desisions about these matters....you could seek prental responsibilty through soliciters which would give your exsisting parner all the rights that parents have?? probally best to get this sorted as he your son would not really undersatnd all this now and it will all be more complicated when he is bit older, take care

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As long as the birth father signs his rights away, there should be little problem for your current partner to adopt your boy.

Courts will not allow the birth father to sign rights away if there is not another party set to adopt him.

That is how it is in my area.
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