Paranoid and clingy
I have have been married for 3 years, i have known my husband for over 10 years but we have been sort of in an on and off relationship. We now have two daughters together an 8 and 2 year old, I also have a 6 year old from a previous relationship. My husband and I are completely differently, I am very romantic and lovey dovey, and he... well he is not. I am spoiled and have always loved attention, i have gotten everything i want. With my husband being so cold and distant makes me feel that he does not love me. I want to spend every second of the day with him, talk to him on the phone or text him, but then im left waiting for a message back or a call back. I feel very upset when he wants to go out with his guys friends and not take me... WE ARE MARRIED!.. aren't married people suppose o dedicate their lives to each other?.... i guess not... i want to be in control of his life, monitor his every move. because for some reason i think he is cheating on me! i don't have a life anymore, all i do is from work to home and from home to work... i dont enjoy the things i used to enjoy before... my life now revolves around him, and i know thats bad...i just dont know how to control myself. He recently told me that he wanted a break from the realtionship because he feels stalked by me and he cant even work in peace. i dont want to lose him and i feel like i am. we talked and decided to work things out, and work on my attitude but now there is an akwardness feeling among us. my last relationship was not a good one, my ex use to check on me 24/7 he would get mad if i didnt answer his texts on time or if i didnt pick up the phone, he didnt like me going out or having friends, i was literally in jail. am i traumatized now????... i dont want to lose my husband, i dont want my marriage to go down the drain, but i dont know how to control my feelings... when he leaves to go out with his friends.. i cry and i get angry at everybody.... i just want to be happy... and have a healthy relationship, but i honestly think he is falling out of love with me and now he is just with me for our children.
You and your hubby need a holiday or a diner together. Where you can spend time and have a private talk with him and do something nice together. There is nothing worth more than faithful talk. Sometimes too much works and everything is going on makes both of you tired. A part from the possibility that he cheats on you, otherwise, I think you can save your relationship. Have a talk with him, tell him what you think, let him know how much you love him and all u did because you love him, I think he will understand for you. remember, when you have children together, that's always a tight not between you and him. a family. so, good luck.