Trying not to give up
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2years. Things where great in the beginning. We made a move to a great place and we loved it. We lived there for almost a year and my boyfriend was introduced to a new group of people and began to hang out with them. This lead him into drinking, A LOT. He lost his job a few months prior and had difficulties trying to find one. He started out drinking some then it just gradually got to EVERY night. Not just a few beers, until he was trashed, stumbling, and rude. He became to be more aggressive to me and others. We had talks and cops involved but still didn't make a difference. He finally got a job and had to scale back to his days off. Things started to look up some. We decided it would be best to move. He thought a change in environment would help and the new location would be closer to our jobs. The drinking got less and less. After 6 months of living in the new address his parents and older brother move 2 doors down. We thought we had all come to an understanding and it would work out. We thought wrong. His brother is an avid drinker and his dad like to drink a few on his days off. But my boyfriend doesn't understand a few. Now if his family is not here he is there on his days off and they almost ALWAYS involve drinking. I have tried to have many conversations about space with the family and the drinking but he just says he is old enough to drink and he has every right too. I have considered throwing in the towel and leaving a lot recently but, I do love him and don't want to give up. I just do not know how much longer I can take the drinking and family boundaries. We have even talked about moving but I hate moving and we like our home here. I just do not know what to do any more. I am REALLY close to just leaving. My heart just keeps breaking. I can't take the drinking any more. I could really use some helpful advice......
its a problem,take him to a rehab centre ,he needs to change.
We have tried AA groups together and himself. He just says he doesn't have a problem he only does it when he is off work. He claims he isn't like everyone else. I tell him it is a problem that is what makes it Alcoholism. He just tells me he doesn't understand what the big deal is. He has also been to an alcohol class.
Honey I have a similar problem he didn't drink when we got together 8 months ago but drinks 5 days out of seven he is getting worse if he drinks mpackore than a12 pack we got in a fight he is aggresive and verbally abusive once in front of my son and 4 times in front of me alone we broke up and got divorced 28 years ago because of drinking and womanizing. Now he is heading in that directi on again I am trying to deal with it when he is sober he cooks cleans and treats me like a queen its all up to you remember you can change you not someone else