feeling confused!! please provide solutions asap!! please pleaseeeee!!!
Ok. So here is my problem. I had a breakup almost a year back. It was a bad breakup because i was dumped and later on i found out that he had been cheating on me from the very first day because he was already in a relationship with someone else. The fact that he left me for soneone else literally killed me. It was basically an online relationship but we used to talk on the phone too and even met a few times. We had become very good friends before our relationship started off and i had got very attached to him. I trusted him completely and never ever doubted him. But after whatever happened..i was very upset. Used to cry a lot. But slowly it got better..the pain was less. However it has been a year now and still whever i think about the way he left me makes me cry. It's not that i want him back. It's just that why do i still feel a bit miserable all the time? There is this weird kind of feeling within me which i cannot describe. It's like i am happy yet i am sad. And i do feel worthless at times after he brought me down this way. I feel like no one would ever like me. I feel a lot inferior now. There was a time i was not bothered about all this but now i think such a lot regarding all this. Can you tell me whatis happenning to me? Why do i feel the way i am feeling? And how can i stop feeling this way. Please help me.
"Can you tell me what is happenning to me? Why do i feel the way i am feeling? And how can i stop feeling this way. Please help me."
In order, from Question 1 to Question 3:
1.) You're growing up.
2.) Because a human being living life.
3.) Give it time.
Oh right I forgot - *NO* one has ever been through *quite* this situation THIS majorly, ever; so there's no way anybody could really truly understand. They can only trust that it's really mega-ultra-major and just try to understand just how whoppingly earth-shattering this really is.
Well, guess what. I call bullshit. *EVERYBODY* goes through this, at your age, to the *same* degree, with the *same* intensity. You get through it, you really do. And you really do look back it fondly and realize that what was really happening is that you were beginning to grow up and to start being exposed to really intense emotions.
See "St. Elmo's Fire" - great movie. Rob Lowe looked RIGHT at the camera, "broke down the fourth wall," and infamously said - from the Brat Pack straight to my entire generation: "You know, we're ALL going THROUGH this! . . . ." They did. WE did. They survived. WE survived. YOU'LL survive.
Good luck and enjoy living life.
I am sorry to hear about this breakup. It really shakes up your world when you invest your full trust into someone and you find out something awful - like how he cheated on you.
You might have some memories and feelings resurfacing that you hadn't dealt with fully around the time you found out he was cheating and the breakup occurred. It will be tough, but let it process, take care of yourself, and treat your heart tenderly. It sounds like a case of depression. I understand the feeling of worthlessness; to know that someone did not value you enough that they cheated on you and left you must leave a huge hole in your heart and your spirit - but don't let this hurt you. Remember that you are valuable, you are loved and lovable, and that you don't have to feel that way. Just because one person mistreated you and rejected you doesn't mean there is not love out there for you. Sometimes, we just make a mistake and look in the wrong place, or put our trust in the wrong things. That's okay. That's when we let those doors close behind us and move along to journey to better places.
Take some time out during the day to process your feelings. Do a guided meditation, listen to some music, express yourself creatively, make a cup of tea, heat up some warm soup, make yourself a delicious and nutritious meal, take a bath, etc. Eat some 'happy' foods with mood boosting vitamins such as mango, swiss chard, dark chocolate, asparagus, spinach... Those are just a few suggestions of things to do, but doing anything you think might be comforting and which helps you take care of yourself might be a good idea right now. If you build yourself up, you'll be on your way to healing in no time.