Boyfriend and going outside
I know this sounds stupid but Im just a little annoyed with my boyfriend for some reasons
1. He told me he was going out today because family friends are around, but whenever I'm at his house we never go out . Even his mum said if she was me She would of dump my boyfriend a long time ago . Just there isnt much to do around his area but now when he cant talk he is going out and the worse thing is I dont know the family friends so a girl my age could be trying to seduct him . Like he says he doesnt like going out in public at all or talking or interacting with others . Saying that he is worried someone will see him with me , even know he said he wouldnt mind others seeing me with him . Like I keep asking him does he want to go out and he always says no if he does say yes its for food shopping. really all he does all day is go to college and plays video games . Like even I go out more than he does
2. Video games . We had this talk for hours , we have like said he has a limited number of hours and that he cant just play all day and not talk to me or message me one saying he is playing and that he go to sleep afterwards. Just that it feels sometimes he doesnt want to talk at all . And you know how sometimes guys get roses or sweets or a present for their girlfriend ? Well what I get is a video game . He send me codes for games which I dont bother playing . Just he doesnt get it . Like I dont want video games all the time , even just £1 worth of sweets is good enough for me and yeah just doesnt seem like he gets the picture . Like I dont ask a lot from him .
Has he been tested for Asperger's? That's kind of what this sounds like.
There are lots of reasons for not going outside, but the obsessive gaming and then gifting you a game when you don't like games really suggests this.
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Well no he hasn't got Asperger's as that is a type of Autism which he doesn't have any type of austim Well he is just a teen boy spending hours on games because they cant get used to the outside world and its hard to have them have confidence to go out its not asperger which is the problem , its amount of gaming which most teen boys do . But there isn't really much of a solution but wait until they grow out of it
It still sounds like an addiction and not just "boys being boys." I mean, my guy friends aren't really like this at all. I've dated guys who like games, but it's never been their whole life. And I definitely can't say I got a gift of something I hate because a guy I was dating liked it.
That's all I was getting at. Don't settle for less, maybe?
That's the thing it is a addiction but my bf says it his hobby and I can understand it can be but it isnt when it gets to the point of him not talking to me all day and then calls me when im so tired at like 11 at night to talk to me its not fair on me because i wait for him to talk , not have him call me when he feels like it
Well, it's funny you mention the 11pm thing. Not a boyfriend, but my sister went through a phase where she was hooked on video games and she started calling me at that hour TO TALK ABOUT GAMES.
I get up at like 6am for school, so I had to start shutting my phone off. She eventually started seeing a therapist, and I don't get calls at 11pm now.
But yeah, I'd say being hooked on games might be why he's not going outside.
Have you pointed out to him that you can't really afford to talk at 11pm like that? Shutting off your phone probably doesn't work with boyfriends like it does with sisters.
Like i told him i cant be kept up all night waiting for him and he knows that i just think he hasnt got the hang of it yet and that whenever i ask for help from him he says i dont know what to do i cant help you and we cant go see there isnt money for a therapist and that i still think he will play games no matter what people tell him