I am growing to tired of it, he's always walking around with an attitude and when I get home from work he totally checks out not even helping with the kids while I cook and clean. I am totally fed up and have started to consider divorce. I love him dearly but since I am working and know I can adequately support myself and the children if we go our separate ways I am really considering doing just that. I know marriage is a struggle but I can not honestly recall the last time I was happy in this relationship and he doesn't seem willing after countless talks we've had to do the things necessary to make me happy. How do I do I deal with this?
& if not then you should help him find a job.
& if he does then you should wait it out and see how it goes but you should be comforting him and not expecting more from him because you got into this marriage and you knew the obligations of it.
Please let me know if I have helped you or you need anything else. I wish you the best of luck(:
I have struggled a lot when I've been unable to work sometimes. I've held myself to unrealistic expectations that really just brought me down. Ask him if that's what's eating him up inside. Or maybe he really doesn't know well enough how to care for the house and cook. You could show him how to do things, maybe explain to him some of the ways you did things - he just might not even know where to start.
I think that if you are still very exhausted and he is not budging and doesn't want to take help concerning his depression or his problems in tackling housework and cooking meals, it could be a deeper problem he's not willing to resolve. You deserve to be happy, and marriage should be a lot more joy than a struggle. Struggles give a lot less merit than joys and triumphs to your marriage :]
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