Few days went by there were no more text from her, and the way I found out a text came in he was expecting a message from his daughter and he hollered in and said look at my phone and see if that is her. When I looked at it said the exes name. I didn't go snooping in his phone, I was asked to look.
Anyway, I asked him there have been no more texts did you figure out how to block her number, he said no I called her and told her not to call or text me anymore, that I was in a relationship with you and I would like it if she showed the same respect to me that I showed her when we broke up.
I said okay was just wondering, he assured me again that I had nothing to worry about, I said I am not worried at all.
Well things were fine for about a month and half. I logged into my FB account, there was a message from him, I was using my computer, which FB is different on a computer then it is a phone. You have more options due to space on the screen.
I went to reply to his message and a little pop up box, came up that said he became friends with this woman and 13 other people. Her name zoomed out at me, I was like are you kidding me, I felt so violated and lied to, you cannot imagine.
I brought it up to him, and he assured me she sent him a friend invite but I had nothing to worry about, he said I never even thought it would be an issue. I said well I don't like it, I just think that is a way for her to try to cause problems.
In the next breath he started calling me a liar, a snoop, how dare I go through his stuff. He said how could you think I would cheat on you. I never at anytime accused him of this. I simply said I didn't like it.
However, past experience, when a man gets this defensive with you over something as petty as a contact on FB, something is not right. You bet, I caught him with his hand in the cookie jar so to speak. He never thought I would find out because he has over 800 friends. But FB snitched him out. You can't see this information when you send a message on a phone but it is a feature on a PC. I told him I could prove that what I was saying was true.
At that point I was told nope sorry the trust is gone on both sides now, I am like you don't trust me, he said yep your a liar and a snoop. Well I got called one to many liars and snoops. Long story short we broke up 8 months ago, and I moved on. Now I am being harassed by him because he can't stand the fact that I have moved on.
The trust issue, I didn't violate his trust he violated mine when he chose to add her to his contacts. Now if a man was a really good friend for years as I was told she was to him, make note he and I were friend for 40 plus years, we grew up together. I was informed that she was his good friend, I was nothing. She however, being his really good friend and was told not to call or contact him in anyway, I would have never sent him a friend request.
I think he was in contact with her the whole time, he added her and figured I would never find out, but I did find out and it ended the relationship.
I know you say you love this man so much, but he doesn't feel the same way about you that is evident. You had the proof in black and white right in front of you, what more do you need. You are in denial, if this man truly cared for you he wouldn't be conversing with another woman. Which by the way you said were several women. This man is playing you just like he is playing these other women.
My advice is let him know or don't let him know, but get out of that relationship and find someone that will be true to you.
I was dumped for a barfly, I moved on and didn't look back. I now have a great man that is there for me in every way. I couldn't be happier.
Find yourself someone that can make you happy because this will only lead to more sorrow and pain for you.
Let him know that you know he is cheating with these other women and that is one thing you will not tolerate and end the relationship.
No matter how much it hurts and no matter how much you want to contact him, keep moving on do not call or contact him. There is someone out there that will treat and show you the respect you deserve.
I hope this helps you in some way.
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