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Not Sure What To Do

Posted by
JABA
on Sep 29 2013 at 12:35
Member since: 29 September 2013
Relationship advice I have a couple of friends I work with who recently worked to set me up with a young lady that I like but had not really gotten to know yet. As it turns out, she is kind of shy and I am a bit on the shy side, but not quite as much as she is. We've talked quite a bit over the last few days and gotten to know each other pretty well. I really think she is a kind, sweet young lady with a good heart. I like her outgoing personality and she always has a warm, beautiful smile on her face, even when she's going through lots of crap. The only problem is, she's in a bad relationship currently (not marriage, relationship). The guy she is with is verbally abusive to her, nags her all the time, and is even verbally abusive at times to her two daughters (all according to her). So, needless to say we can't see each other any time we want and can't even communicate over the phone with each other any time we want because of this. Right now, to be honest, I'm playing a waiting game in the hopes that she will find the strength (something she tells me she wants to do) to tell this guy it's over for good so she can be completely available for me. We haven't had sex nor do I even see that happening any time soon. I'm not giving her money or providing anything for her like that yet she asks me to be patient and hang in there with her because she doesn't want to lose me. Problem is, I've been here before, and it never ends well for me. Was in a similar situation a long time ago and I ended up getting pushed away and the "bad" people in the significant other's life ended up staying. My mind is screaming "get the fuck out!" but my heart is saying just give it a little time. I have no idea what to do.
Not sure what to do
Reply from
ASHOKBT0
on Sep 30 2013 at 16:33
Member since: 01 October 2013
I am little doubtful this is affection love or sympathy...pl check urself and write down in paper what relation you want to maintain short term long term serious .....or something else...please be sure about ur intension..dont expect or wait for her side first clear from ur end wht u think finally...arora 09716532678
Not sure what to do
Reply from
GOLFNUT
on Oct 1 2013 at 23:10
Member since: 03 October 2013
Your shyness is holding you back from other dating opportunities. Agree to be friend for now and see what other possible connections you can find out there. You may be suprised what idle conversation in comfortable surroundings can lead to. Look at every encounter as a chance to meet someone new whether it is at the grocery store, library etc. Once you make eye contact the signal will or will not be there so let the talking begin. It may be a challenge at first but, you will overcome your shyness. Good luck!
Not sure what to do
Reply from
JABA
on Oct 3 2013 at 14:29
Member since: 29 September 2013
Thanks for the responses. I know how this ends, with me being hurt so I\'m backing off. I\'m tired of feeling this way in every single relationship I ever try to enter. This one is history.

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