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I am in a relationship with the love of my life for almost 3 years.She used to be full of love and took care of me very well.The first I caught her cheating on me was when I was admitted in hospital for 3 days,and during that time she went out with her ex throughout those 3 days.When i came to find out,she begun to ask for forgiveness and promise she would change.She swore that they just went out but nothing happened between them.I don’t know whether I could trust her entirely because her past was very bad.And things went well but I made sure to control her from visiting her ex and some other stuffs too.But she was perfectly fine until recently,I found out from a close friends she was playing behind my back.She pretended all this while for 2-3 months that she was close to me and everything was fine and our sexual life was perfectly fine.But behind me,she was visiting her ex for months and few days back I found out she went with him to club,got drunk and stayed with him for the night at her place just both of them.On top of all of that,She created a fake facebook profile months back chatting and flirting with random guys.And also she was having a second phone where she used to called and message and also skype with her ex and few random guys.When I found out,she confessed that she did that because I was controlling her too much.She also said that I didn’t show much trust or faith on her and that is why she did all this behind my back.And she didn’t had sex with her ex or neither of those guys.But she was merely out of stressed and she wanted to talk and play along and flirt with those guys.The reason she went out to drink with her ex was because she wanted to chill out and nothing happened..I really find hard to trust her story but she swore that it was the Truth. I understood that maybe I would have controlled her a little from certain freedom but I am sure it doesn’t matter much as most of my time I used to spend with her and we were actually doing everything together. I don’t know if her excuse to cheat on me make sense.The worst part is,when I confronted her,she told me she is also confused.One second,she said she still loved me,another she say she doesn’t want to.She say she knew she betrayed my trust but she didn’t show much of sadness or feeling of guilt.She was like heartless when I cried and poured everything to her.I even promised to change myself and give us another chance.I am willing to forgive her and try all over again.But the weird part is she was the one who betrayed me and said she was confused and didn’t even know she still love me or not,but she asked me for a break.She need time to figure it out.And she say,that she wants me to wait for her when we take this break.The problem is I don’t know whether I should forgive her in the first place.I don’t know whether I should be the one asking for a break instead since she broke my heart..Plus,she dealt with me and spoke rudely as if she doesn’t have feelings for me but yet insist that i give her a break for her to figure out whether she loves me or not and wait for her to see if she returned or not.I don’t know whether she is making use of me.Or she really need space to figure out stuffs and etc.Please help me..

Being cheated on

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Hello ,personally I believe without a doubt you should not trust her and move on with your life :) it will be difficult at first but you will hurt more staying in a relationship like that in the end !! Tell her your done honey !! And find a trustworthy girl x

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It is so obvious she is a pure bitch!Leave her now and never ever turn back.She doesn't deserve your love at all.

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I seriously think this girl is a waste of your time, effort and money. Dump this ***** for good. She'll learn her lesson in 'karma's cafe'; where there are no menus', she'll just get served with what she deserves. You'll get over it soon. Your close ones will help you in this phase. Loves!

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