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I don't know if he was just trying to get sex out of me - but I really like him.

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Relationship advice I started seeing this guy about 3 months ago. We haven't seen much of each other, maybe once or twice a week. After a few dates and meet-ups, things were leading to sex. I told him I don't do casual sex yet I don't want to be in a relationship either.
He suggested being 'exclusive' (whatever that means?). I went away (overseas) and thought about it. He brought it up about a week ago asking for my decision. I said no due to the fact I felt it was placing rules on something that should be fun. We spoke about it briefly but I can't fully recall what was said (it was a loud environment and we were drunk). All I remember him saying is "We'll be friends. I would hate to ruin the friendship - you are SO cool, and the no-sex thing is hot". After that I was still hearing from him a lot - so I thought "cool, he obviously still really likes me". But now he's cooled off considerably and seems his interest has waned. I regret telling him no to being exclusive because I've grown to like him so much. The other important thing to mention is we almost had sex 3 times - I said "Ok I'm ready for this" (I got caught up in the moment) - he stopped it saying "I really want you to think about what I suggested, I don't want to be the guy who becomes a dick to you because you end up getting too attached". Also, every-time I've seen him when he's drunk he seems very 'open' about his feelings - saying things like "You must feel so good knowing I want you so much" and "I really want you" etc. etc. But then when he's sober he sticks to his guns saying he doesn't want a relationship. I know he's also now seeing someone else but I can tell it's purely for sex.
I ended up at his house the other night and we hooked up again (no sex though) - but CLEARLY we are not just friends. I've now asked him to meet for a drink but seems he's avoiding it. What can I do for him to regain his interest? To be honest, I am willing to even try being in a relationship with him now...

I don't know if he was just trying to get sex out of me - but I really like him.

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Trying to keep someone's interest by sleeping with them is a really tough call... because generally it ends up in a large spurt of interest and then nothing.

If you wanted the relationship then you would have accepted it, anything else past that point (right now) is regret. Give him a bit of distance and see if you can maintain the friendship. It sounds like he isn't ready for a relationship either, or he would have given you clearer signals.

I don't know if he was just trying to get sex out of me - but I really like him.

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Are you kidding me? I see these men coming before they open their mouth to mouth one word. He's a player, and not a very bright one. Set your attractions to men on a higher level, like his interests, hobbies, intelligence, what does he think of women, etc. this one is as dumb as they come, thinks he's slick, and needs to set down the booze. Your better than this.

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