We earn a lot but she spends it!! Help please
Hey guy's....... Anyway me and my girlfriend are both nurses and we earn fairly good money around 1k---1.5k we earn around that every fortnight now my probem is I'm trying to save me and her money incase we ever need it our family thinks we're very rich for our age ( only 18 ) and way we get paid 3 days go by is gone like literally gone we're running around house looking for coins for petrol because she spends it all on clothes DVDs anything she can get her hands on now one fortnight I did not touch my money she spend all her pay in 1 week ... She asked me for some money now I gave her 250 I came home for work to ask for 10 dollars for petrol out of it ... Every cent gone literally gone I have gotten to the point now where as long as the bills are paid stuff it i try to save some money like 200 dollars a fortnight and not tell her .. I feel like I'm a bad person because i hide money but I only hide it incase anything ever happens to us like we have to go to a funeral 12 hrs away just anything I just need help we're going to fall in debt she spends it all ive just hit that point where just let her do wat she wants I can't stop her I'm just going to make sure bills are paid and save my pay she's been at her job for a year has nothing absolutely nothing to show for it ...please help guys any comments is appreciated
Your girlfriend has no impulse control - it's a sign of immaturity - and unless she learns it, she won't survive in the world. You have to make her be responsible by not loaning her money just so she throws it away. She must be confronted by her problem or it will be much worse for her. You have to get serious with her and tell her that you are not propping her up anymore. She has to learn to stand on her own two feet. If she won't try to curb her spending, then you will have to leave her or else she will drag you down eventually too. This reckless spending behaviour should be treated like any addiction. It must be controlled. Help her draw up a budget and stick to it - after all the bills etc are paid and some money is banked, she can then spend what she wants.
tell her your over her spending and you are no longer sharing your money and if she does not want to save hers she cannot expect to have yours, I can see this ending badly, I would let her go, not worth it, she will send you broke then find someone else, good luck