To swing... or not to swing?
My husband and I have been discussing having a threesome for a while. We've been discussing the person we want to ask. But now its developed into a bit more than that. There are three people that he is interested in and its been suggested that we involve all three at one time. I'm not exactly opposed to the idea of having another man touch me while my husband and I are making love, but the idea of three of them, besides my husband is a different matter. I want to experiment with my husband, but these men are younger than either of us, and one of them is practically innocent, but he wants to learn from someone experienced and he has seen me and thinks I'm "hot", which I guess is a compliment. Now, don't get me wrong, I am not being pressured into doing anything. My husband has told me that if I say NO, then that's what will happen. Does this sound crazy? He says he wants to have something different in our lives. He isn't interested in involving other women though, which is good because I don't think I could handle seeing another woman touch him, but I'm worried that he won't be able to handle this either. I just don't know. Even though we have talked about it for a long while. Any suggestions or advice.
Nobody can know how they will really feel until they are in a situation. I suggest you go slowly with this - try involving only one consenting person at first. Have some drinks or food and get comfortable with each other and then see if you still want to proceed. But if at any time during the experience you feel uncomfortable or upset, then you should make it clear to your husband that it is time to end it. The same goes for him - he may find he experiences jealousy or some other negative emotion when he sees you with another man. Don't just go along with what your hubby wants - you have to be perfectly at ease with this idea or else it could ruin your relationship.