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I don't know how to touch her

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I am now entering my second serious lesbian relationship. I know everyone is going to think this is hot or something, but I am really nervous. See, I've been with girls before, but I stopped dating them because women are crazy. Well, I know how crazy this one is and I want to see her anyway. I really like this girl. The problem really is...she is more masculine than I am use to, and I just don't know how to touch her. I am so scared, its hard to kiss her. She is much younger than me, and she doesn't make a lot of moves either, and we have been very honest with each other, I still just don't know how to get over it. Genderqueer, that is what she identifies as, and I don't know much about it, and it really confuses me. So...if anyone can help me, I would appreciate it.

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Just start kissing and cuddling her and then ask her what she would like you to do to her. If you are happy with it, then do it. Stop worrying about it and just go for it. She is probably just as nervous as you.

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If you like to kiss her, then do it as long as she likes it too. If it turns you off because she is more masculine then that is an issue . My advice is to simply ask her what feels good.

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So I laughed at your "because women are crazy," just because I can relate. Not that I've really dated much, but enough that I can relate to your feelings a little. I dated a girl who didn't identify as butch (or genderqueer) necessarily, but was way more masculine than me. I was the one who had to find common ground because she found me kind of annoying at first. But it did work out (we eventually broke up, but for distance). I think just communicating is the best thing. Anyway, genderqueer is a bit different than just straight-up butch. Some genderqueer people do not like being seen as men or women. Some prefer other pronouns, like zie or zir. It's different for everyone, so the best thing to do would be to just ask.

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