A new years dispute
Our new years celebration started in the local pub, where we had cobbled together about 10 of us, mostly couples. During the evening it became apparent that my parents had a house party and the pub was looking a bit desparate so I put it to the group and every voted. The verdict was to dash to my parents for new years, it was about 11:15pm and it was 15 mins taxi journey. So off we all went, but in the mist of this my girlfriend came up to me and said she was concern we were leaving a friend of hers behind. I said invite her to and we proceded to walk over to her friend talk to her about it, mean while the group had got the taxi rides and gone to my parents. Her friend didn't fancy it and I thought "ok you can stay here and we can head off", bare in mind that my girlfriend and I shared the same view the pub wasn't great and clearing out. My girlfriend then said to me we should stay until 12, I said I didn't want to I wanted to be with family and friends. All of a sudden, my girlfriend starts crying and heads to the toilet with her friend. It got all a bit strange, as I didn't really see any need to start crying or make a fuss, we are all adults. I'm now stood at the bar at 11:30pm with no one, they come back out but go back in again, I'm still on my own. I start thinking this is going to end up with us stood in the pub for new years and not with everyone, I'm completely confused! Why has this gone crazy, this is not a big issue? So anyway, I make a rash decision and call a taxi, it arrives and I leave without her no saying goodbye, she is still in the toilet! I am angry and don't answer any of her texts or calls, she knows where I am and she has made contact with someone else in the group. I need to ask advice really? Why did that get so out of hand? I'm not going to lie, it was harsh leaving but my girlfriend did say she wants to stay and I didn't really wan to. Some times I wonder if she tries to stop me doing things, attention seeking perhaps.... there are other similar stories, but I want an honest opion firstly on my actions and secondly on her strange behaviour? I told her today I can't cope with the childish tantrums, she has moved out for a couple of days until I apologize.
to me it looks like your girl is putting on a show.one a show with the other girl,are she,s on drugs.reason i say that i,ve been there and done that.so what ever she,s not careing about what you thank.leave if you can are you will see what i,m talking about
Simple: She chose her friend's feelings over yours.
2 things Davizer,
1. Your friend is not your friend. Her actions tell you so.
2. She's moved out until you apologise?..excuse me?! tell her to keep going because you have nothing to apologise for. If anything, she should be apologising to you because after you organised to go to your parents house party, you considerately invited your friend's friend when it became apparent that she would be left alone. You were thinking about her. Her behavior says the exact opposite!
And you're right, if your friend wanted to stay at the pub then that's her business, but you're wrong when you say it was harsh to leave her there. She agreed the pub wasn't jumping and so you organised to go to your parents and so be it.
Manipulation and immaturity, are 2 words that comes to my mind when I think of your friend. You mentioned that you were all adults...sorry, but she isn't there yet.