If marriage is in the future, you and he need to sit down and figure out all the "household" bills (including food bills for the combined family) and each of your own "personal" bills.
Blending this family is going to be difficult, I think. Good luck with that.
Agatha...here's a heads up for you..this man's actions should be telling you what sort of person he is and if you are going to marry him one day then I think your life is going to be something like "he makes me feel like an awful person because I'm not" forever and ever amen.
He is manipulating your wallet and playing with your emotions.
You've spent a motza on the house, furnishings and decorations etc, you pay half the bills, I say that again, half the bills and still support your son with everything and then, you did all the work yourself with no help.
Any decent man would let you live with him for absolutely nothing after doing all of that! He would have assisted you to decorate etc and if he was a real man, an alpha male, he wouldn't have let you pay for any of it even if you wanted to!! If fact, if he was an alpha male he would have just asked you what you wanted done and then had it done so YOU would be comfortable in a new home TOGETHER regardless of whether it's mortgage free or not and regardless of who owned it!
Have you also considered that the money you've spent on the house could enhance HIS property and increase it's value??
I think you really need to take your thoughts further here and sit down and look at what sort of a person your fiance is...after all, he requested you move in and then says it not fair you don't pay rent just because he owns the house outright?!
It's not about the amount of rent you pay Agatha, it's about why you need to pay it at all.
This thread has expired, but why not create your own?