Confused by a girl
Really confused by some signals a girl is sending me. I had been working with this girl for about a year but we work in other departments and she had a boyfriend so I left her alone. A few months ago she broke up with him and I gave it some time before approaching her. We hit it off right away and I got her number. Sent her a friendly text for thanksgiving not wanting to bother her too much on the holiday. The next day she texted me in the morning and we talked all day. Then the day after that I thought things were going good so I attempted to set up a date. However she told me she already had a new boyfriend and just wanted to be friends. I thought about just forgetting her but we got along so well that I thought I might as well just become her friend and find someone else. This is where the weird signals come into play. For starters she texts me everyday, sometimes in the morning, but always when she is getting ready for bed. Usually just to tell me how her day went and to see how mine was. She does this even if we worked all day together. I've never had a friend, male or female, text me everyday for 2 months straight. Not even my best friends. She jokes a lot and we tease each other some too. Then there is the physical contact. I work delivery so when we both work I just see her for short periods of time all throughout the shift. Every-time I'm back she comes and talks to me. She also always finds a reason to touch me or have me touch her. Poking, tickling, bumping into me, brushing up against me, kicking me. Then she finds reasons to have me touch like her belly cause shes working out or her collar bone, or her back. On the other hand she will also start conversations about things you would only discuss with a close friend, like her breast size or how many guys she's dated. she also never talks about her boyfriend except just a short "I hung out with him" or if he's in a story shes telling. For instance they got in a car wreck and she mentions he was driving. The focus however remains on her and how she reacted in the situation. And here is the problem. I had decided I was willing to be her friend but all the stuff she does keeps me interested in her. It's hard to think about other girls when She is on my mind every night before bed and then almost every morning too. Is she just the most friendly person? did she really need a super close best friend? Is she keeping me interested as a backup plan? I don't know what I should do. Sorry this got kinda longer than I expect! I appreciate any help though.
She's a tease!! With her flirty ways, she is keeping your attention from finding someone else.
She has "branded" you at work. I wonder what your other co-workers think.
Get out of this ASAP. Put up some boundaries with her and turn your attention to another gal.
Let us assume she is attracted to you. That explains the daily texting and the physical contact. Also, let us assume she is telling the truth about having a boyfriend. If a girl is happy with her boyfriend, it is extremely unlikely that she will flirt with someone else the way she does. So she is unhappy with her boyfriend...he is there but is not satisfying her in some way. In my opinion, you have nothing to lose unless she keeps leading you on in vain.
I am a tease myself, and tend to have borderline inappropriate relationships with coworkers. I am the source of much gossip and tend not to get along with other females. I am also happily married and 100% faithful. The guys I flirt with know this. They know I love attention and am playing around. But there are boundaries. One fellow tells me about the sex dreams he has about me. On another occasion I had to put on my serious face and let him know flat out that I love wiggling my ass for him, but if he touches it again, I'll have to stop. I'm a girl who requires a lot of attention. I am faithful, but I don't think most girls like me are. If anyone is ever going to make this girl happy it is going to be someone who can shower her with attention, complements, and sexual desire constantly for the ret of her life. If she's flirting without boundaries, she may not yet be able to maintain a faithful relationship. Proceed with caution. It is rare to get a girl from another guy, and then not lose her to someone else.