End of a beautiful relationship
I had been married at age 22 it ended 5yrs ago after many issues from infidelity to abuse but we had two amazing daughters. I met someone in 2009 and we loved each other and thought that we were the best thing that ever happened to us. He likes social drinking and does it regularly and hanging out with his friends who also drink he would come home drunk, roughed me up on a few occasions, would not remember what he said to me the following morning, the bedroom would smell of alcohol and I could not take it anymore, I would smell his alcohol all the time on his clothing , I felt as it also sent me mad. He would come in later, even the early hours o the morning and our relationship broke down and he left me pregnant in February 2013. He tried to be there as much as he could but things were never the same he spent our first Christmas and new year apart and that broke my heart, he came to visit me at 4;00 AM on the 2nd of January he was out at friends..... He told me last week he has a new year with a new focus after I was trying to explain something which he had no interest in knowing (about me). I them told him to get lost and leave me alone. I feel happy doig this as he has really ignored, disrespected and made me feel like I am a beggar. I told him he can see our daughter but I have to arrange it when convenient. I suffer with a few health conditions and this has an effect on my mobility but I am able to function as best I can on most days. I believe that I was not the best suited person for him because of my health and probably too boring, he always said he did not mind but at the same time every weekend he was out with his friends and having a good time whilst I was always at home. I feel like i encouraged him to have his cake and eat it now.......... I need help to pick up the pieces and move on with my life and kids. I could do with some words of encouragement to lift me up... anyone......
Your life is a fairytale with sad endings. But always remember, in the end everything is going to be okay. And if it's not okay, it's not the end yet. So keep your self up thinking that what you deserve and how to achieve it. Think of new ways to make your children happy and shape smiles on their faces. Be the woman that dedicates her life in her family, be the best example you can be for your kids... Ask yourself. What is the problem? why do everything go so bad when you decide to go a step further in your life and move on like you did with this guy... The answer of course lies on luck and the course life takes so it will make us more experienced and also stronger. So for now you can be the happiest woman in the world just knowing that those little miracles you have created love you and care for you. In this kind of situation I would advise you to be very careful about finding an other man to burst out about about the previous ones... Be careful with your life, with the people you integrate in your routine. Test them, see how good they are, how bad they are, how elastic they are or how vulnerable in terms of dealing with various situations. If you are a smart woman, you will touch so many happy moments in your life that will make you to forget everything about the smell of disgust that you experienced with that man... In short, move on, family first. You are a lucky woman having those kids and you should be grateful
How is this a "beautiful relationship"?
In 6 months you are going to say to yourself that you are glad that jerk is gone. He is rude, self centered, irresponsible and probably an alcoholic. And here you are, with fragile health and a new baby.
You made the right decision. Be a peace with it.