No physical relationship
I need help on my relationship. I am married to a guy whom i was dating for past 3 years and now since 5 months we are married. We were having physical relationship even before wedding, almost every single day initially, slowly it started reducing and we hardly made love once in 2 or 3 months.
Marriage was my choice as my husband wanted a girl from financially set family and i was not. while preparing for wedding itself i started seeing differences in him and he was insisting to postpone the marriage.somehow we got married, after wedding on the same night itself he started saying know to having physical relationship with me, sumhow after going for honeymoon i made him understand talked to him and after arguments and sum force from my side he did have physical relation with me. during the honeymoon he also learned that in that country love massages were given he spend almost half a day to find out the place and go.i was quite surprised to see that ecitement and kept silence as I didnt want to ruin or honeymoon, i never said no to any of his likngs, we talk a lot at home ...what ever i say he pretends as if he is hearing and gives no reply. he is very interested in business and news. he spends almost every minute he is at home on computer and tv. all he talk to me is about financial matters. now we have reached a stage where i have started asking him and forcing him to have physical contact with me where he clearly says no. i do not know the reason. all he says is he is tired, at times he even says i am not appeaing. he watches **** movies and also does self help every morning when i get ready for office.
i am very much stressed and is trying to make every single moment great at home. i keep telling my friends that we share a very healthy relationship and we still make luv evey single day.
i am 25 yrs old and he is 27. kindly suggest
I am sorry that your marriage is not what you wanted. You two should be very much in love, but his actions do not show that.
He owes you an explanation as to why he is not a loving husband.
Was this an arranged marriage?
Can you go to a marriage counselor together?
It sounds like your very unhappy and unsatisfied. Im a man in a similar situation. I could talk my wife into having sex but as stange as it sounds I feel less satisfied because the best part about making love is not my satisfaction but the pleasure my love making brings my partner. I feel bad for you its so hard to long for someone that doesn't want you
Except for the fact that your a woman and I'm a man are storys are almost identical. It hurts so much. So even though I don't have any good advice at least your not the only one feeling this pain.