I dont know what to think or to do
hello, ive recently broke up with my girlfriend whom i have been seeing for only two months plus and its a long distance relationship. we often chat via chat services and skype. mind you that she is two years older than me and she 27 and iam 25 this year. the feeling of interest is mutual but before we made it official about being in a relationship she sometimes remarks about my reluctance of making our ' seeing each other' public and so on. she always tells me that she takes relationships seriously and has no time for games or people who are gonna waste her time, relationships to me are always serious and there isnt a reason to say it should be serious since it is a known fact. i have no problem being monogamous and loyal. when she says things like that and that she is older than me makes me feel guilty if she is looking for marriage or something of that sort and so i told her that our relationship may or may not workout, that it is all up to god and i would like to see where it goes. she says she never lets guys touch her on the first few dates and stuff and i had a tough time with at least holding hands on the few occasions we did meet after my several visits flying down to see her. finally the last i saw her to my surprise we got extremely physical, and then after when i got back she started texting and she complains about me not initiating physical contact in public or kissing which when she wanted to in public we did. i kissed her goodbye in the streets and held her hand when she wanted too. frankly i was a surprised and i dont want to hurt anyone so i had a discussion with her again about we may or may not workout to make sure she is ok with it and i suggested that we should keep it at dating first and let us get to know each other more before committing into a relationship because she always tells me she takes it very seriously and she doesnt want to freak me. Thats when i saw her true colors, she started cursing at me and belittling me about not knowing what i want in life and to pull myself together which really really hurt me so bad. I made so many efforts to see her and spend time with her and when we have a discussion she turns it into WW3. finally she told me repeatedly that if i cant commit that i should walkout and that she has never stopped anyone from walking out. i felt gutted. few days pass and i told her i was really upset and that we should remain friends, then she texted she was sorry but she knows her worth and she said walkout if you want but shes not gonna be there if i come back. then she goes back to being nasty and then finally she says iam the one and i make her feel special. i have been nothing but nice to her even through our argument, after 4 days i called her and told her i was sorry and both of us have faults, we can try to make it work but she talks to me with a 'snobbish iam rite and your wrong tone' also rudely, when i asked her about her opinion about being together she just exhaled and said i dont know. i felt small and so upset. i made my mind up to move on and we spoke again the next day and told her my decision and surprisingly, she questions me about when i made up my mind and was i sure about it, i told her i was and then excused myself to avoid her. she then starts texting me and says please dont do this and dont walk away and so on. but i told her lets leave it at friends. but she texted the next day as well about being together but i just ignored her. the question here is I dont know what to do. I am feeling down about the whole thing and how she wants me back and should i or not ? onother thing to note friends is that her birthday was yesterday and while i was feeling down about things she posted pictures and videos of her with her friends laughing and having a good time. I am so confused as to what is going on in her head ? if she really wanted me back and if I meant something to her she wouldnt be handling it like this, iam hurting but she is having a good time. she tells me she really wants me but all the signs point otherwise. thank you guys for even just listening.
Faris, Sounds like you had the wrong girl all in all. People like these just wants attention and i do not mean to be rude but since you guys are keeping a long distance relationship, she maybe flirting with someone while she is with you. She could even be with someone while she is with you.
From experience i say this, that she looks for you when she is lonely. I got cheated on so i think she maybe seeing someone from somewhere over the globe and when that person is not free to entertain her, she turns to you. I say this with full apology because i know it sounds like i know what is goin on on your end but i don\'t. I know that. Im just guessing here.
Also, its a two months thing. She may pretend like she is mature, how she wants a guy who is a gentleman, no touching and all but deep down she could be a wild beast. I\'m just saying that you may not know her true colour.
Save yourself kid. Sounds like you\'re one of the loyal guys. Find someone worthy.
Good luck, cheers.
you sound like a good guy and you don't need a girl like her to ruin you I've had a friend like her before and they act like they change but they never do i decided to give it another shot in being her friend because she said she changed so for a couple weeks she actually looked like she changed then you saw what was really there not someone who wants to change someone who likes drama someone who likes attention you deserve better