Bi-polar and a comment my fiance made
ok so my fiance was upset that I woke him up and had him fix the labtop that wasnt charging he said "it was working earlier" he got mad and said "you always break sh**!" Our computer is broken well the charger is my dog ate the wire he fixes it by using electrical tape. He said something that really hurt my feelings and he seems to think im over reacting. He said " keep your fat fingers off the computer,sausage fingers" I said "...what?
" he said "you have monkey fingers" I started crying and crying loud (im bi polar btw) and he said "omg stop crying! why are you crying? wtf" I said 'you said i have fat fingers you think they are fat!" he said "no you are being fu**ing stupid I didnt call you fat! I ment that you are break sh**!" I cried for no lie 3 hours he said i over react to everything and that I cant take a joke he kept saying he was joking and i took it the wrong way but im upset because my abusive mother would say that to me he didnt know she would say that and he said "seems like everything I joke about you cry you can never take a joke" Yesterday we were joking around and he said "ok mrs piggy" while laughing I bursted out screaming and crying saying "you think im fat! you think im a pig" he said 'NO! wtf I never called you fat! your pissing me off you always twist what I say! I said your miss piggy because of how she is with kermit IT WAS A JOKE!" do u think he was wrong? or am i over reacting? I havent been sleeping in the past 2 weeks im irritable and depressed about my child hood abuse and im depressed for no reason when I have a panic attack over something that he thinks is stupid he gets mad when I cry over a joke that "I took wrong". I feel like he doesnt understand me idk if im just overly emotional. Im also depressed because his co worker made a really mean joke to me I went to go visit my fiance at his job at gamestop this co worker who is 19 years old kind of dorky and immature he looks like he is honestly 14 said to me "Elvin run to safety quick!" he laughed and I got so upset! I felt like he was judging me and that somehow he knew i was bi polar or that he thinks im crazy and that my fiance should get away from me my fiance is his assitant manager and told him "stop being stupid" the kid said "lol I was just joking!" I read into his "little joke" and now i jumped to many conclusions maybe all his co workers are talking about me. Well I stormed out of the store and became so depressed. I was so angry when his co worker said that to me I felt like screaming at him. My fiance keeps saying I over react to everything what do you think about all this and especially the FAT FINGERS comment? I asked him if he thought I was fat and had fat fingers he said "No ! I never said u were fat or had fat fingers I ment that u break everything its a term for someone who breaks things"
Sadgirl, your fiancee does know you're bi polar doesn't he??
Seems to me u r both a lil in the wrong.. I think he needs to be maybe a lil more trying at being sensitive in the way he says things to u but at the same time you cant take all his words as the end of the world.. All in all id have to say i kinda agree more with u tho.. but if this is how he is then u gotta ask is he actually making u happy or just sad? does he do stuff that make u feel good to or just make u feel low? I dont think he ment anything seriously bad by his comments but he should be more mindfull if he knows ur bi polar to know u might not take comments like that so well