This is a problem from a few years ago but it is still on my mind now and i need advice please. i found a email that my husband received from a swingers site. i checked it out and the description part of the person sounded like my husband but the date of birth was wrong. he denied it was him and said his account must of been hacked. it said he was into men and couples and a and o. i felt sick of the thought that he could go with men never mind women. he said he was not into that sort of thing and we rang the web site up but couldn't get no help about it. i put it to the back of my mind thinking my husband wouldnt be into that and he as always came across as normal and not into men only women but now when ever i see him on his works laptop im wondering what he could be up to and even thou i can check it i know if he wanted to he could hide things from me. now im wondering why i didnt do more finding out with the site and to get to the bottom of it because i would of left him and divorce him but i will never know if he was telling me the truth or lying to me. there was a photo of a mans P...S taken on the drivers side and it did look like my husbands and he is a sales man and in his car alot. all the other photos on the site showed people in there bedroms not in a car and this is why i keep thinking it must of been him. he had also gone on a dating site years ago and he denied it until i showed him the evidence because it had his real date of birth, the description etc and he finally admitted it was him but said he went on it because he thought i was cheating which i know was an excuse because he had no evidence i was and i think he went on it because he was looking for someone new. now im thinking do i stay with him until the kids leave which two of them are to go off to uni but there will still be my younger son left at home for another two years at least. i admit i have been on dating sites recently and i think its because i cannot trust my husband whatsoever and feel he as not been committed to me so why should i be now to him and after finding the swingers site i really wonder who the hell i married. what do you think about all this and what would you do if you were in shoes?
Sky, you have asked and answered your question here with this post. If you can't trust your husband then you don't have a relationship with him. Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
You're basically going through the motions of a doomed marriage, you're waiting for the kids to leave before you act. You know what you're going to do because you're planning it in your mind.
You need to follow your inner voice and only you can do that. When we're in doubt, it comes to us and speaks. Ignore it at your own peril, because it's usually right.