Guys who keep distant
I have a group of online artist friends. I met their mutual online friend, a curator at a festival over a year ago. We had chemistry. I added him on fb he had a girlfriend. Disappointed. He flirted online & our mutual online friend (a guy he's worked with) shared private info about me which exasperated me. Almost a year past, he breaks up, and adds all (including a vampy girl on-top of him) on social networks EXCEPT ME (I follow) even though, he still occasionally flirts with me online and has met me several times since (I'm not a stranger). On occasion, not all the time, he seems to PARTICULARLY like me, but I've also met him as a fellow art exhibitor at events. Why the distance? It hurts to feel almost particularly excluded even as an equal mutual community member. Also it's not in my head as other community members comment on it but in the end dont understand/talk about his behavior. I've notice this sometimes with guys who are socially savvy who expressed interest in me, they discover I'm shy/awkward and raise the bar and get even more distant all while being flirty (ie cat & mouse.) What gives?
Well my 2 cents say cut off all those people from your life who bother you with all these kind of antics. When you stop bothering yourself about why he is sometimes going overboard and at other times ignoring automatically all will be fine. If he is really interested in you, stop following him and he will come to you (if he is interested). The cat and mouse game will only keep you guessing and hurting you in the process.
Somehow using the word \'antics\' hit the nail on the head. While others have mentioned \'cleaning house\' to me before somehow the twist in gaming logic you used made me realize the unfairness of the \'rules\' which pronto needs to nipped. Thanks.