So 2 months later Me and my wife fell out again about the day she left home and she went to stay with another nephew for 5 days. I told her she didnt have to leave but she stated she couldnt stand me anymore. 5 days later she comes back home and when i went over to her nephews to help her get her things her totes was in the basement as well as her alarm clock. But she told me she slept there and then later told me she didnt sleep there that she slept upstairs. I asked her then why is your alarm clock downstairs when you know you have to get up for work and she stated that her nephew wakes her up. It was apparent that she gets very nervous to even have me go over there with her to grab her things so she never got the rest of her items. Its been 6 months. She secretly got a telephone from her sister to use over there and it wouldnt of alarmed me but she never spoke of it and her nephew told on her accidently because she left it on the kitchen counter. This was placed there a day after she moved back in with me, and stated she never used it. So when i asked why you take it back there she stated so her sister can come get it because she dont need it anymore. Its many lies shes telling me i can tell.
she gets frustrated anytime i ask her and keep saying "im a good woman, im a good wife". She contradicted herself so much but has mastered the tales of the events over time. I cant get her to tell the truth no matter what technique i use.
It's obvious your wife has lied to you and so the trust you had is gone. Her repeated absences from the home, regardless of who's to blame, should tell you how she views your marriage.
She doesn't want to be with you when you argue and rather sort it out, she walks away from you which solves nothing. She wastes the opportunity to discuss the argument's cause and would rather just distance herself.
It doesn't matter what she's done or what you suspect her of doing during these absences, if she can't be upfront with you about it, then you're wasting your time being in a relationship with her in the first place.
You need trust and you need communication and you need two people bouncing it off each other to have a successful marriage.
Your wife is preventing this flow with her actions.
I think that sums it up for you.
(You really have no proof that your wife is cheating on you - only that she sleeps at other people's homes, which can be upsetting for her, too. I think there's more to this story and we are only hearing your side).
Discussion closed - why not create your own thread?