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Posted by
SCARFACE80
on Mar 7 2014 at 05:57
Member since: 07 March 2014
Relationship advice I was dating a women that I knew from work. It was going extremely well the first several months. We were always on the same page. Then I got a really good job offer out of state. Anyway, we discussed it and said we would try the long distance relationship method. Neither of us have ever tried it before. We said if we could make it through this, we could make it through anything. So here's it is. Our relationship started getting rocky because of my mood swings I guess you can say. I did tell her that I had this problem before we started dating. The first few times she let it go and I'm thankful. One night we were talking about it again. And supposedly I got upset and pushed her arm away saying I don't need this. I don't recall that much. So months go by and I see a whole different girlfriend. She was very distant and cokd at times. Keep in mind we weren't the most vocal and communicative couple. She always had a thing where she puts up a wall and pushes people away instead of dealing with the problem. So, finally I told her that I couldn't take this treatment anymore. She told me it was because of that night in bed that she has been very mad at me. Anyway, we discussed things further and decided it was best for us to part ways. Sort of a mutual break up. Weeks go by where we'd text each other here and there. We talked finally again and she said that she misses me and still loves me. She said she just needed time. But, it would go back to that cold and distant woman I grew to not like. What should I do folks? I don't want to sit around and wait. She is a great gal and I can see a great future but her actions differ from what she says. Do I just need to cut ties completely and risk losing her or just give her time? I feel cheated by her. She's even tokd me that it's unfair to me and that she doesn't know what she wants. Uggghhhh please help!

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Reply from
SHIVANGI
on Mar 7 2014 at 09:06
Member since: 24 April 2014
It is evident that she is also not sure if the relationship will work. When you enter a relationship with doubts in your minds, how will you both make it work?

May be give it a trial period in which you both commit to try your best and then see how it goes before you both decide. If committing even for a trial period either of you feel the need to think well, then its best consider its over and to move on.

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Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Mar 7 2014 at 14:13
Member since: 27 December 2013
These long distance/skype/text relationships are VERY difficult to maintain.

You need face to face contact with this woman to see if all this drama is worth your energy - and hers.

Make sure you two can spend some time really getting to know each other - especially since both of you seem to be moody people.

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Reply from
MOUNTAIN
on Mar 8 2014 at 21:08
Member since: 08 March 2014
Hi,

I think you are being a little hard on yourself on the mood swings , everybody gets stressed. especially when you do not feel supported. Long distance can put a strain on a relationship.

Do you continue? You sound like you are ready to let her go..... move on.

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Reply from
SCARFACE80
on Mar 10 2014 at 01:09
Member since: 07 March 2014
Thank you all for your replies. They have helped me clear my head and I am moving on. I just don't feel like she feels the same way as I do towards her. I told her I'm cutting ties between us for good. Sigh.. it really sucks but I know it's best. Thanks again folks. Now on to a different phase of my life. Keep chucking foward. :)

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