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I don't know if he cares about me, but I'm in love

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Emotional advice Well,this will be lenghty, but all the information is needed.My friend has been dating this guy for about half a year, and she introduced me to him. He was head over heels in love with her, but she isn't the type of person that cares too much about boyfriends.Anyway, her bf and I have gotten really close and were able to talk about everything.We didn't share any mutual interests, my friend and him shared interests, but we talked about personal stuff, his family and his depression and such.I had really started to fall for him, but he was in love with my friend.Anyway, he told me after some time that he liked me, but he also liked my friend and he wasn't sure anymore.I told him I really liked him too.That same night he told me he liked me, he went on a date with my friend and after the date he texted me he's sorry, but he really likes my friend after all, and not me.I was heartbroken.About a month later he broke up with my friend because she wasn't paying enough attention to him, and asked me on a date THAT VERY DAY.Anyway, we hooked up and were dating for about a month behind my friend's back and then suddenly he broke up with me, telling me he only sees me as a friend, and does not have romantic feelings for me.A WEEK BEFORE THAT HE DRUNK TEXTED ME HE LOVES ME, and then this.He said I'm really dear to him and he would like to stay friends because he can talk to me and cry on my shoulder, but he just doesn't se me as a romantic partner.WHAT IS IN HIS HEAD HELP.We have been texting for months EVERY DAY ALL DAY and I really miss that. I could talk to him honestly and he could listen.I haven't met anyone in my entire life I could open myself to like that. It was a connection like I've never had with anyone else. And he says that about me too,that he couldn't talk like that with anyone in his entire life.That's exactly why he wants to stay friends.The only thing I'm puzzled about is, if he only sees me as a friend, why would he text me he loves me? And why would he lie to me for an entire month? Does he care about me? What do you think?

I don't know if he cares about me, but I'm in love

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I think he is confused regarding his own feelings regarding a relationship with anybody!!!!!!!!

You and your friend and him it is possible the guy is confused. What does your fiend think of any of this, is she a friend at all???

I think you and him should remain friends the text even if he was not drunk it is simply he cares for you, you as a mate , and is scared he will loose you. You can love someone as a friend.

I can understand that you are confused by his actions, of course but he had a girlfriend , met her friend and she moves in on him.... which you did do. You should not have got that close to him, out of respect for your friend??

Many lessons here...... work on friendship and the values there before entering further.....

I don't know if he cares about me, but I'm in love

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He's a user.

Get a puppy if you want a relationship like that.

I don't know if he cares about me, but I'm in love

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Shirley, I'm sorry but this kind of stuff is often what movies are made of: Two people have similar life struggles and meet up and eventually feel they're made for each other when truly you're only made of the same experiences and feelings as a result of. It really sucks for both parties (and even your friend who is now a third-party) because you get to damage your hearts even more feeling that this person 'totally understands you'. He totally understands his anatomy and only what you're going through, rather. I don't want to sound harsh but do you really want to be seen as the kind of friend who picks up the leftovers? I believe you deserve to have fresh beginnings and not be the 'friend' who'll attempt to date an ex of someone you know. It's viewed as tacky- unless there is some spiritual experience where the Gods themselves come down from their thrones and personally sign off, I'd say to keep it friendly with this guy, recognize that you're at most kindred spirits and most importantly- keep it moving. The same reasons your friend was not able to maintain the relationship with him is likely going to be the same or similar reason your relationship won't work out (hint: wandering eye). I hope you find someone who is truly going to be yours. You deserve that.

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