This is the second time I have broken up and kicked my ex-boyfriend out. I am a divorced mom of two teeenagers. I go to school part-time and work part-time. He half-heartedly owns his own business and it's slows greatly in the winter. We had been dating for only 3 months and we both decided he should move into my house. Then things went sour. He started working less because of the terrible weather and I started picking up more and more of the bills. We had agreed to split everything except my personal bills; my credit card, my cell phone, etc. I finally had had enough and kicked him out for not helping by paying his portion. He went onto his Facebook and berated me for being a money-hungry bitch. Then we got back together 4 months ago but never asked me to be on his Facebook again as his girlfriend or friend. That made me suspicious. Now we have parted ways again, for the same reason. I love him but he is in his 40's and financially irresponsible. I don't want to risk losing my house or going into debt with him. Should I take him back again? I want to be with him but not live together and share bills. I'm afraid if I tell him I want continue to date but not live together he will end our relationship. I also have trust issues with him because he has lied to me in the past. He is a habitual weed smoker and places great importance to that above a lot of things. Wow, as I write this, he does not sound like a good boyfriend.
it really does help to get things down on paper. i would not let him move back in for starters. Why is it that when ye splits he moves out and then back in again when you are back together. The issue has not changed which is he has not regular work and smokes weed.
May I add that the smoking weed has alot to do with the under-motivation. I still think that you do not know him long enough to move in either.
I think you should just focus on you and your work and studies and kids, I would keep him well away too with teens and weed!!!!!! disaster waiting to happen . I know we all try and experiment well not everyone but alot of teens do. Having it in the house is a wrong message. It is a sneaky drug and slowly takes over your goals, and person, I know this because my last partner was a addict. Get away as a fast as you can , he will choose the weed over you every time , I mean everytime.
Move on and you will find a great person that you can worry about , what dress to wear to the dinner that he will be bringing you too, you deserve it girl . Move on....
I have read this again if he lied to you before and you have trust issues , you know in you heart this is wrong. You know you deserve better, you are scared he will end things if you kick him out again!!!
You kicked him out a few times in 3 months !!!! not once did you say anything good that happens between you in the few days in those weeks you are not kicking him out , or fighting over bills, or you sitting alone worrying about the bills, and the weed, and will he leave me.
He does not include you on facebook but he sits in you house !!!!!getting stoned!!!1
Way too many doubts and uncertainty for any relationship. You are stressed to the max girl boot him out again and move on.... life is way too short.
Thanks, it's hard to take, but MOUNTAIN, you are right! I'm not letting him move back in. He blames me for turning his world upside down but Now I realize he has always had his problems way before we started dating.
Good for you.
In six months you will be angry at yourself - and quite relieved - that you got rid of this loser - no career, no money, druggie, cheap, blamer, financially irresponsible, liar, . . . . do I need to list any more????
Plus, your teens are seeing the kind of man that you hang with. Not a good role model for them.
I feel incredibly guilty for exposing my children to him. Until I saw it in black and white, I kept making excuses for him. Not any more! Thanks SUSIEDQ
All you can do is your best ........
You have alot of positives in your life.....
Two great kids!!!!
Work and college , which means you are progressing and bettering yourself.....
That sounds like a good role model to me!!!!
Don not let him eclipse it all.......