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Really, really confused??

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So i became really good friends with this lad 2 years ago, he watched me go through a terrible relationship and alot of family issues but he was great always made me smile and always there for meand we got on really really well he always looked out for me, when i plit with my ex he was my shoulder to cry on never once making any passes at me , he was deployed to afghan lat oct and we kinda lost touch i went through a stage of trying to get my ex bk, but the whole time i really missed my friend, after getting my ex out my system early jan i decided to try and get intouch with my friend in afghan i was amazed he messagex bk within a day and we got chatting i told him amot losing my grandma and he said he was coming bk the following week for sometime off, we arranged to meet up and he was his lovely self picked me up after my grandmas funeral and took me out to cheer me up he was his usual lovely self,he met my family properly and he introduced me to his,but then he was deployed bk which was whn i realised i felt more for him than i had realised we spoke about it for weeks whn he cud get on the net and he admitted he'd always liked me but didnt want to take advantage after the trouble with my ex, well he was a real cutie constantly telling me he thought the world of me and he was shocked that i liked him that much i couldnt wait to see him when he was bk which was about 8 weeks later he came straight to see me and as usually we had a good giggle but this time is was more than just friends and we kissed alot and slept together and it felt so right and he was so lovely holding my hand and kissing my forehead, he had to leave early to get back to the barrack which i understood and he txt me that evening but the nxt day i feltabit strange like something wasnt right so i asked him if he'd used me for sex and he said he assumed we were taking it slow afterthe hurt id had with my ex and his career issues with the army but he didnt want either of us to get hurt but i took it as a brush off a.d said i would find it difficult being so close now and i hoped it all worked out for him well he read the txt and just ignored it completly so i txt to apologise that i had miss understood him and i really missed him a.d cod we talk prperly well he logged in to fb 2 days running but never bothered to read my messages. I whatsapped him as it tells u if they loggin in which he did the first message but no reply the second one i just put i had no idea wht id done wrong and was very confused by all the effort he'd made with me for mths all the messages and being there for me to just not want to speak to me again, his still not messaged me and i have no idea how u can spend so much time getting close to someone and then treat them like they dont exist especially after he saw how badly my ex treated me and told me i deserve better even my friends and family said how lovely he was and how much he cared about me, it was him that wanted to bring the subject up last time he was bk but was to scared, i know he has to stay on the barrack for a few weeks, but i just dont get wht changed?? or wht i did wrong but ive lost my best friend :(

Really, really confused??

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It is not unusual for a soldier to not RESPOND to emails and such. They may be on lockdown. Try to be patient. Give him the benefit of the doubt. (IF you do see him responding to others, then something is wrong. He owes you an explanation, for sure.)

Really, really confused??

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He probably has an anger and ego issue? Some men when they get angry completely cut off for a while. You will have to wait and watch where its taking you. Keep dropping in occasional messages and see how he is responding in a few more days.

Really, really confused??

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I have no idea what lockdown is all i know is he was being kept om the bareacks for 2 weeks after he came omefor assesment but hes logging in and out of facebook but hasnt evem read my messages but hes liking and sharing thinks and accepting friend requests, whn iwssaged him on love chat (whatsapp) he logged in the first message but then nxt his just not logged in again for 3 days now its like he wants to forget i exist, so why all this effort and being there for me for mths if hes just gonna pretend i dont exist now and why introduce me to his family?

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