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Relationship advice hi all just wondering if anyone could give me some advice, i lost contact with a girl from school for ten years and she has just got back in contact, now wen we was in contact we was very close even wen we was just friends but it was never a complete breakup we always seemed to be sort of havin a break. anyway we have just got back in contact and im not sure wot to make of it, its made me realise that the feelings i had for her 10 yrs ago were real not some school kid dreamy thoughts but im not sure weather to tell here exactly how i feel cause shes pregnant with here boyfriends kid but she is also eager to meet up, i fear im reading into it and seeing something thats not really there. any advice would be much apprechiated.

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Sorry mate, its too late. If shes pregnant that means shes commited to that guy, the,most you will get is the,friend zone!

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thats the problem, shes only been wiv him bout 8 months, and she has had a kid wiv a different bloke that she left not long after havin, plus i know from reading between the lines that things aint goin very smothly cause wen i ask her weather she has told her bf bout me cause i dont want to cause her any problems she just says it wouldnt, so i aint too sure if shes looking to meet me and see how it goes or its just friends, im not too bothered bout just being friends with her cause shes a great friend but i need to get an idea of wots goin on preferably from a female so i can stop thinking bout it

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It sounds like you really care for this girl. I hate to say this because I can tell you care but if she has a boyfriend, then all you can be is a friend. I would not make her feel like she will be cheating on him because if she ends up cheating with you, she would also cheat on you. Just be there for her as a friend and she may come around and you two could be together at some point. If you feel like she is coming onto you, I would just ask her about it. It may not be what you want to hear (or it may be exactly want you want to hear), but regardless...you will know. Just make sure she knows that if she wants to be with you, she can't be with him as well. You deserve better than that. Hope this helped some.

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Please see this for what it is: she is Pg with another guy's kid and is asking to see another man. For what? Probably to be used.

Run away from this one, sir!!

This is a childhood crush that is a disaster in reality.

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thankyou nikki i was thinking something along those lines but wasnt sure weather it was the best thing to do or not, glad we could help each other , good luck for future

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I can see how you care for this girl and given the history it adds a romanticism to it all.

However , if she is pregnant with another mans kid!!!

Is she the love of your life, are you prepared to become a dad to two kids, and the presence of the dad weekly when the new baby arrives.

I would personally say to remain friends with her. you are getting yourself involved in something that will hurt you.

Can you really trust someone that has an emotional affair with another guy?

Can I ask I am getting the impression that you have not met her yet since the ten year break?
'she is eager to meet up'
If that is that is the case , your feelings are not based in reality.

Nothing is stopping you from meeting her in order for you to get some closer on this .

Is she being entirely honest with you.

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Nah I met up wiv her 6 or so yrs ago wen I came back to see friends she wanted to get bck together but I was livin other end of country and I found out wen I got bck that she had a bf that she didnt tell me about so because of that im thinking if she wanted to mess me around she just wouldnt have told me shes wiv this lad or that shes preg so shes either changed and is now being honest wiv everyone or just being honest wiv me cause she wants to get bck wiv me

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And no ive got no problem wiv her havin kids and I wouldnt have a problem helping her wiv them or the fact that the kids dads r still around afterall if it dont work out between us then I cant restrict myself to just seeing girls wiv no kids cause I will end up alone the way people have kids today

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I do not know the girl.... Id say she is telling you the truth......

God not many guys out there like you that is for sure.....

Do what makes you happy ........ and the biggest question is are you prepared for a family ..... not just her.....and the complications that will bring...

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God yeah, thats all I want, I have seen a few girls wiv kids b4, but this is different, I dont quite know how but it is

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I see......

Personally do not rush into anything..... remain to be a friend as you did say that you get on well ...... see how things go as friends ....

you still do not know if you are reading things into it....

It is possible you are ...... stay friends

good luck

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Well thats 2 people thats said to stay friends and see how it goes and I think this is wot im goin to do but if the subject of relationships comes up do I say: my feelings havent changed but I understand that ur wiv someone else and i I will respect that or will that cause me to lose her as a friend?

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Meet her, see what she is telling you. If the time comes to open out your mind to her....just be honest and see where it takes you?

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Looks like shes taken me for a mug again, failed to respond to my msgs since tuesday morning including the ones to check if were still meetin up tomoz. Shes blown her last chance, thought id put this on here so it might remind some of u that things arnt always as they might seem, plz be cautious and learn from my mistakes. Thanks anyway to all who responded.

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