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I am seeking some advice. I am a 48 year old single father of one (divorced). In November 2012 I met a 23 (at the time she is now 25) young woman on an online Ukrainian dating site (I know all the stores). We talked for a couple of weeks and moved over to a social networking site used by most people. From that point on we talked daily. We do have several common interest. She is smart well educated. She has never asked for money of any kind. In November of 2013 she applied and was granted a visa to come to the US. She went to Pennsylvania with a man (who is about 56) and she described him as a friend. She stayed there for about three weeks then went to Utah and stayed about a month with several people she had known from her home in Ukraine. Went back to Pennsylvania for a week then came to visit me in Florida. She stayed for six fays and we went to the tourist spots and got along well. I made no attempt to "put the moves" on her. She left to New York City to stay with her aunt and was going to leave after a week and return home. Due to the recent problems in her nation she stayed another week in NYC, then went to Pennsylvania for three days before returning home. She plans on returning in the summer. Since her return we had a discussion which led to me asking her about the guy in Pennsylvania. She said he would marry her but she does not think ICE would think it would be a valid marriage due to the age difference. She never said she would marry him. She also said an old boyfriend of hers would not due to her unwillingness to convert to Mormonism. I am not sure what to do. She has a lot of the qualities I look for in a person to have a relationship with. Smart, sense of humor, enjoys music, and yes she is very attractive. I want to move the friendship into a relationship. Should I be open (always my choice) and confront her and see what happens OR just move along with my life. Though I value her friendship it is not what I was looking for when I got to know her. Any thoughts would be appreciated

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You don't KNOW this lady. She is from a far away land and sounds like she has many other ties to people in the US and outside. If she really liked you and wanted it to go further, she would have stayed with you. She sounds like she has already explored regulations with the ICE. I can't believe you can't find a gal in Florida. I understand the women outnumber the men by a lot. Please go online and find a local gal, if you must. Be careful - there's no fool like an old fool.

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I agree in part with your post. This is why my alarm bells started going off. In my haste failed to inform the readers I am a practicing attorney. I had a colleague provide her some help in getting her paperwork correct. I offered, she did not ask for the help. She also spent two summers here in 2006 and 2007. Her Utah friends are from a Mormon mission that is located in her home city. But yes I have some concerns. Thank you for taking time to answer

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Grayrider, if she wanted/needed to move into a relationship with you, then she had ample opportunity to do so. Regardless of distance, ethnics and age, if you were the one for her, she would have 'told' you in so many different ways, despite just spending 6 days together. If your choice is to be open and direct always, then ask yourself why do you hesitate here?...is your gut telling you something?...listen to it, because it will guide you and it's usually spot on.

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I want to thank you all taking time to confirm what my gut was telling me. I sent her an email last night and defriended her. She has sent me several messages how she hates this. Be that as it may my instincts tell me I am right. It is time to move on. I hae no regrets in getting to know her. She did nothing wrong. Sometimes life is just the way it is

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