Hi.... It's my first time on this and I wanted to get an opinion on something that has been on my mind. I've known this guy for 6-7 years we have been best friends and there has been ups and downs in the past 2-3 years we have been having trust issues we have been working on but I feel its going no where. We made a pact that I dont talk to other guys and him towards other girls. I do have feelings for him more than a friend, he says he feels the same way towards me, but he says because of me we can't be more than friends and he says that I've stuffed it up. He gets angry over little things has a temper, his behaviour turns me off him. My problem is I don't think we can be anything more than friends, though i sometimes hope we end up being more, he said ill make him go crazy if we are together in a relationship. Our personalities do clash abit but I'm confused I don't know wether to stay -if i stay i cant help but want to be more than friends or to leave -because i know we cant be more.... I don't want to lose our friendship or how I'm suppose to act towards him?? I'm just really confused please advise, what do you suggest??
If you're having trust issues just being 'best' friends, then you will struggle in a full on relationship. Trust is the foundation of successful relationships.
When you have to make a pact so each of you don't speak to the opposite gender, it should tell you that you both are far from comfortable with each other.
If you feel it's going nowhere after 2-3 years, then it's telling that both of you are not prepared to commit to a full on relationship regardless of what/how you feel.
If you truly know you "can't be more" then leave it where it is now, and move on to find someone who you deserve and someone you can instinctively trust.
If you stay, you'll find yourself back where you are now. If he has any respect for you, he'll let you go and remain your friend.
If either of you cannot remain friends for whatever reason well then you mat part ways, unfortunately.
The friendship sound like alot of work when it should not be that way....so any relationship will be a disaster.
My advise is to stop stressing, maybe a break for both of you will do you the world of good.
What stress you have!