Boyfriend can't forgive my innocent past?
Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for four and a half months now. Though, for the past few months since going out, my past has been irritating him. I have had no past boyfriends, no past sexual activity. Nothing. I went to a co-ed school, where I made many friends, both female and male. Since my school was small (200 students ranging from year 7-10), almost everyone knew each other and was close. That happened to me. Since there were only 50 people in my year level, I was pretty close of every single one of them. Although I would always hang with my girls, I would hardly ever go out with the guys. But on Facebook, we used to always do those 'like and I'll...' posts, and we would give hearts to each other and all. My boyfriend went through my Facebook and found these posts. Ever since then, he has hated my past. I didn't do anything wrong did I? He has an ex. Although he says he regrets it, he still did. And I forgave him. I do believe he's moved on. Even though they're still neighbours. I don't see my old school friends anymore. Unless I see them during after school times on my way home. Then we would only say hi, and ask how school is. That's all. We have nothing to talk about anymore. We're not close anymore. He hates the fact that I was once close with guys from my old school. He came from an all-boys school. But he still had contact with girls, he still had a girlfriend. And they met each other's families, they were on the bed with each other. All that. I've never even held anyone's hand before he came into my life. I've hugged a few guys at my old school. But simply because we were friends. Who says girls and guys can't simply be friends? And nothing more. Seriously. Am I doing something wrong? He says I don't regret my past. He's right. I don't. Why should I when I've done nothing wrong. Just because my old school wasn't technically a school with a good reputation, I didn't do anything bad. Just because I was friends with guys, doesn't mean I'm doing anything wrong. Why can't he just accept it. What am I supposed to do? It just feels like if he still can't accept my past, he can't accept who I am today. He continues to tell me how much of a faggot I was back at my old school, and yells at me when I tell him to stop. For a few months now, has this been going on for. It's frustrating. What can I do about this? Please help me..
Lully, you're BF is disrespectful, immature and a spiteful individual.
You have learned the value of friendship with other people in an environment of education. You have learned to respect other people. He, on the other hand is still on the learning curve.
How a person of your maturity can be with a guy like him is beyond me. Why do you need to regret your past to satisfy your BF's absurd outlook to life?
You deserve someone like the guys you went to school with who will respect you for who you are.
The only thing you are doing wrong is continuing to have this guy in your life. The quicker you make him part of your past, the better off you'll be.
I agree when the post before this and think dating that guy this long will be a regret later or a lesson to be learned for sure. I think it is great you all were so close and hope you still are to some at least. I have a lot of respect for you for being true to yourself and having the streght to not give it to crowds and peer pressure. Best of luck! You are great!
His jealousy and possessiveness are red flags.
Move away from his attention and find a more mature guy.