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Is it right to give up? Or is this just part of moving on?

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Relationship advice Either way, I don't like it.... I really like this girl. I've known her for over a year, but it seems like we're growing apart. We never really lived close to each other, but we used to see each other a lot. If it wasn't at church it was a church or family gathering that was held at her house. It was always her, or her sister, that invited me to their house. (We met through her sister) At the time, I was 16 and she was 14. I'm a senior (12th grade), but she's a freshman (9th grade). I thought she was cute when I met her, and I liked her more and more as I got to know her better. I never wondered how old she was really, because I assumed she was my age. Long story short, I passed up a few good chances to ask her out because I didn't want to hurt her sister.(her sister liked me) I've always been bad at saying no, so I decided I would just wait it out and drop hints to her sister that I just wanted to be her friend. In retrospect, that just made things more complicated. Anyways, this girl that I like, liked me too, I think. She always laughed at my jokes, no matter how quirky or stupid they were lol. I swear when I looked into her eyes I melted. She always gave me a hug goodbye when she and her sister dropped me off at my house. When I got home, I always thought about how I could explain everything to her without screwing up. Her family is huge and very tight-knit. (not like mine) I knew that if I hurt either of them, I'd never get the chance to fix it.... The only one I ended up hurting was me lol. I'm glad I didn't hurt anyone else, but it really sucks being the only one that knows how much I liked her. Most of that happened last year. I went for about 2-3 months without seeing her, and it was over the course of those months that I realized just how much I liked her. I had just started thinking that I wouldn't see her again for a long time, but then I did. My friend invited me and some of his other friends over for his birthday. I had no idea she was going to be there, I was shocked to see her. It seemed like the time passed too quickly, the crazy thing was that neither of us really said much to each other. We kept catching each other glancing at one another. She and her friend whispered to each other about me, but I was at a loss for words most of the night. Idk why, because I was never like that with her before. It has been like a month-and-a-half since I saw her, but I still talk to her occasionally on facebook. I know now that it's impossible to please everyone, but that's a risk you have to take for Love. For anyone battling with similar circumstances, listen close (or read close lol, but seriously) all of those things you read and/or hear from people about how you have to risk so much if you want Love are true. You won't know it's real Love unless you're willing to give up everything for it. In the end none of it goes to waste anyways :) . It goes to them, and they'll give you all they have. You gain much more than you lose, and then you learn that it's truly much more blessed to give than to receive; and you know it's real when you can do both with them :)

Is it right to give up? Or is this just part of moving on?

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Why do you want to give up without trying? You were quiet that day you realized you loved her and was lost how to present yourself. She must have been wondering why you are quiet and distant?

Open out your feelings for her and see her reaction.

Is it right to give up? Or is this just part of moving on?

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I don't want to give up, but you make a good point that I never really tried. I'd do it without hesitating if I had one more chance. However, I don't know if I'll get another chance to tell her how I feel. As a matter of fact, I probably won't GET the chance, i'll have to make the chance. I guess time will tell if I see her again. If I do end up in a relationship with her, I'm gonna show this to her so she can see how much stress she caused me hahaha! Until then, thank you Shivangi for the feedback!

Is it right to give up? Or is this just part of moving on?

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:). Daniel, you are in touch with her through FB, isn't it? When you both chat up why don't you try and analyse her feelings towards you? Don't keep waiting if you are sure of your feelings or you might miss the bus.

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Daniel- time to grow UP!!!

You have been in a fantasy love for all this time and have not really interacted with her. You really don't know her.

Get the courage up to ask her out - or continue to live in this fantasy world. But don't be so dramatic about an event that you really haven't experienced.

Sorry to be so brutal, but your inaction speaks volumes.

Is it right to give up? Or is this just part of moving on?

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Susie- Thank you for the advice. Actually, I'm not living in a fantasy world any more. I haven't been for a while, if I was I wouldn't be asking any questions, because ignorance is bliss. I did know her for over a year. It was just that one time that I didn't talk to her much (at my friend's bday party). I always found it easy talking to her before that unless I was trying to tell her how I felt about her. You are right about 2 things though.. I do need to build up courage, and my inaction did speak volumes. Actions speak louder than words, and inaction is often the loudest form of communication. The thing is that it's misleading. I would've acted, though, if I had courage at the time .
Shivangi- Thank you again for your help! That's a great idea. I chatted with her recently, but it was pretty brief. It's hard to tell how she sees me now. I don't know if it would be a good idea or not, but I'm thinking about just asking her directly.

Is it right to give up? Or is this just part of moving on?

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I would chat to her for a while longer and suss out if she is single first.... see how you get along and then ask her out straight for coffee, or movies and go from there....

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She's single, but her parents are pretty strict. I don't know if they would let her go on a date, and I don't want to go behind their back. We wouldn't be able to have any alone time.
^^ As I was typing that I stopped and thought, "wow, I just keep on building bridges that i should be crossing." I'll have my driver's license this week (hopefully), so I plan on asking her if she'd like to do something. If it happens, we'll get some alone time. That would help a lot, I think. Of course, I still don't want to go behind her parents' backs so i'll have to talk to them first, i guess.
Thanks for the feedback, Mountain :)

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