Is he really over our love?
Help please! Oka I've been in a 7 years long relation on march 26 2014. We just had a beauty daughter name Renne . Just recently during my pregnacy , my boyfriend seem like he's hiding some away. I've seem weird things photos 6second of video on my phone?? I really love this guy ever since I was 11 .. lost my v for him .. took him in to live with me .. build he's life bought him a car at the age of 17 .. we share every togather , sex was good until I got preg then everything chage . He talk about leaving but he isn't cause of our child.. talks about leaving all thed fucken time . Its seem to me he's using me .. what can I do ! He doesn't show me loves anymore .. he's always so sneaky around me and never stare me in the eye anymore . He always gone when I'm up.I feel like he already found someone that now makes him happy and want to leave but his kids holding him back . He must hated me because I don't understand him .? I love him so much & how could he do so much .. days ago he cry & ask for a life favor .. I knew its something bad cause he the man I love and know doesn't cry . I only seen it happen three times only and that was the fourth . If he leaves and never come back what am I suppose to do if its only me and my daughter ??
But its even harder to move on because he\'ll never gonna leave now ! Cause no one wants him .. he\'s change a lot .. he say he really love me but he\'s alwys thinking of leaving the room all the time .. he just got a job and staring this. Wed . Seems to me he wanna start saving $ and moving on with this other women . But idk is he still using me for a couple more month and leave . His family doesn\'t love him and won\'t let him in .. no one cares about him but me . And now he wanna leave ??? What would I do ? He say if I wanna cheat and move on then go ahead .. he hurts me a lot.. and now I feel its really hard .. cause he makes me crazy and accuse him of cheating a lot . But throw out the 7 year I caught him cheating two times and forgive him .. why ?? I was young and in love .. feels like we don\'t have a future with renee and me .. of course I love my daughter and I want him to be there for her .. if he leaves me he leaves her . Cause I can\'t get over him when he\'s all up on my door step every other hours ...
Agree that your relationship is in a messy stage. To top that he is acting immature.
It is pretty common that during pregnancy many guys cheat for sex. Women feel left out, irritated, cheated and left alone to look after the baby. From what you say looks like your boyfriend doesn't have any guilt for cheating and that means such episodes will repeat in your life until he gets more mature (if you decide to stay together that is).
Now you have to decide if you want to be together or not. If you are together, these things will repeat. Are you prepared to accept that?
If you want to be together you will have to stop fighting with him (even though you are angry). If you keep fighting it will only drive him further away from you.
If you want to part ways then without fighting, discuss and come to an agreement on how to take care of your daughter together. Fighting will not get you anywhere, will not even help you to move on.
Sorry about your hurt. This has been going on for a long time. Perhaps you did not see it coming. You may have to let this man go. I know it will hurt, but it sounds like he is not happy, so why stay with an unhappy man?
You must insist that this man be honest with you about your future. You must have a good talk. He must provide for his child, financially. Ask him how he is going to to that.
Many women are raising children alone. They learn to be independent and self sufficient. You will feel stronger in the future if you have a plan.