(Background info : 22 years old/female) My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 months. In the beginning, things seemed perfect. My parents loved him. He treated me so well. It kind of was weird because I just knew something would happen..nothing can be perfect, not for long anyway. We've had a few minor hiccups in our relationship. He has cancelled plans on me twice now to see his friends and that really hurt me. I have hurt him too though. He gets mad at me for taking so long to get ready, saying that it means we have less time to spend together. Our problems have been very minor. However, each time he does something, my mom and sister like him less. They just really dislike him. I am their "baby" and they don't want anyone to do me wrong in anyway. Dad likes my boyfriend. I think he sees the male point of view rather than the more biased view. He says he doesn't mind him and seems to understand the things our relationship has went through. The thing that hurts me is I feel like my mom would be happier if me and him just broke up. I don't know what to do because I want more than anything to make my mom and dad proud. But I feel like I'm not ready to call it quits. Mom said she just doesn't know if itll work out. I don't either but I think I'd miss him terribly if I were to end things now. I just feel sad because in the beginning they loved him and I thought I've finally found someone they can like
but as time went on, and he cancelled plans, got an attitude (he naturally has a cocky attitude sometimes), and more recently, doesn't want to go out as much - he says it's "so expensive," they just like him less and less. In a way, I can see why. But I want more than anything for them to like him. I feel like we can never have a life together if my mom and sister don't see the good in him that I do. He's not perfect. I'm not either though. Mom says I make up excuses for him. I hope this is not the case. If he cheated on me or phsyically hurt me, Id be gone. But I feel like at this point, nothing so drastic has happened to cause me to walk away. Ive talked to them about trying to like him more and give him a chance and everytime they start to, he will do something else they don't like(not big things, but little things). I can see why this makes them mad but wish theyd see my side too. Breaking up is not easy to do. I told them if we break up, all they have to do is say "aw you'll find someone else." Whereas I will be the one missing him, and my life will change completely. Can anyone help me? I want more than anything to make them happy, but I love him. I wish I didnt, but I do. I DO NOT want to look back and say man, mom was right. How could I have been so blind?! But I don't know if she is just exaggerating things. I know I am her baby and I'd probably be the same way if I had a daughter. What do you all think..Is it worth it to end things? I will do anything to make my mom happy..anything. I love him though. Is breaking up too drastic? Opinions?
At 22, your mom is looking at this like he might be husband material. He is not, according to her.
Five months is not enough time for major decisions so don't lock yourself in with him.
Why don't you have a heart to heart with mom and find out why she is not getting good vibes from the relationship. She wants the best for you, so listen to her experience and concerns. She may have some valid points to consider.
You are spelling your own relationship's doom. On one side you are blowing up minor issues coz of your mother and sister getting upset and on the other side you are attaching way too much importance to your mother and sister's perception of him. How do you think your relationship can survive all this? Already your mind is swaying between breaking up and continuing with him. Do you think you guys can be happy in such a situation?