Hi, my name's Bianca. i'm 16 going on 17 & i need advice on a boy.
In September, 2012 i met up with this boy, Ben that i hadn't seen since we were kids. We spent the night together with a coupe mates drinking, having fun. & as you can imagine, spent the night together (if you know what i mean). It was so nice, he was an amazing kisser & we spent the whole night under the stars.
Me & Ben had a bit in common & some history as kids. We are both into motorbikes, and outback & we'reboth pretty steady going.
Anyway, as time went by we were still talking. but he was always a bit of a sleeze. like, he wasn't very nice to me (only when he wanted to be) & seemed like he was only interested in another one night stand/ nude txt images etc. we would go weeks upon weeks without talking.. despite his attitude towards me, i still talked to him. something in me just loved his attention. whenever i recieved a text from him i would be happy.
Then one day he called my phone & asked me how i was etc then asked for nudes again. i said 'no, sorry' & he said 'it's not like i haven't seen it' then i said 'no' & he just said 'ok, bye' & hung up on me. at this point i felt a strange rush all through my body & my chest started to hurt. then i started to cry. i didn't know why i felt this way. i thought it might have been the few alcohol drinks i had but i wasn't drunk at all. i didn't say anything to him about it, i just let it go. now i had established that i indeed had genuie feelings for this boy..
when we went weeks upon weeks without talking, my feelings would weaken. after months & months of talking over text every so often; he began to get nicer & nicer to me. which made me so happy! he even started asking me if i would ever date him. which in my mind was thinking ''yes, ask me out!" i always held myself back & said stuff like ''i dont know, ill have to get to know you better'' . (which i regret deeply). we would talk at least a few times a month.. strangley one night i had a dream about a very big heart break & he was the boy in my dream. i even woke up crying.
Then this year, around Febuary he got a girlfriend.. when i found this out, i felt empty, i felt sad, i felt regret, anger, but not towards him. just about the whole situation because i knew i liked him. I still acted like everything was fine & talked to him on facebook; which was when he started to ignore my texts, calls, inboxes etc. i felt so stupid
i was talking to a friend about how he's an asshole for ignoring me & he found out what i said., he called me & asked me what i was talking about. then he explained to me that it was infact his girlfriend who wouldn't let him talk to me. he told me that he had feelings for me before he got together with his girlfriend but he didnt want to tell me. so i finally had the guts to tell him that i had feelings for him as well. he said he would have chose me if he knew & that he really cared about me & still wanted to be friends & that he didn't mean to hurt me. this is when regret started to kick in. i could've had the boy of my dreams (literally) if i wasn't so idiotic!
That was out first break up/make up^. we still talk. but i always let him be the starter of the conversations. because then i know for sure he wants to talk to me
although i cant help but wonder if we are better off as friends. because now we talk about actual things happening in our lives & topics n stuff other than just us.
i still to this day, have feelings for him. but i'm beginning to feel like i'm getting over him again. but the worst part about it is i don't want to be over him already. i dont know. im not looking for answers, just some advice or some re assurance, opinions anything pleasee xxx
I am sorry - but this guy USED you. I think you know that deep down - hence the dreams.
What do you think he was doing with the nude shots?? Probably showing them to his buddies.
He has a GF - if he really liked you, he'd be with you.
Be glad you are rid of him. He's a user.
PS - Please watch your drinking!! you are making bad decisions when drinking. Alcohol is a depressant. You are too young to be putting alcohol in your system.
i think you're right. i do know that deep down & i'll admitt i'm aware he used me. but why is he still talking to me? after al we've been through..
i never sent him any nudes though which i'm glad
this wasn't the response i was hoping for but thankyou for being honest & i appreciate your time
I thought you had sent him some nudes.
Yolu said he asked AGAIN if you would send nude pictures.
He's a sleeze ball.