Hi All, I need your advice on a personal issue. I have been married since 6 months now and I and my wife have kind of split right now. Although she wants to get back I have strong doubts that it will work out. Here’s the full story.
Two months before our wedding we commonly bought a house coz she didn’t want to live with my parents (fair). Right from our wedding day, we couldn’t have intercourse coz she always felt pain. After that, regularly (very often – every 3 days or so) she got angry for petty things like she didn’t like what I cooked, that I put so much this and this. This went on for months. She was also often afraid to the point that she couldn’t go upstairs alone. And she even prevented me from watching soccer at night because she was afraid to stay alone in bed. With regards to intercourse it never happened all through these months, when we tried to she got angry at the end coz it was painful for her. After that given that we had some pets which died in the house she started to doubt that the house was haunted. In order to remove her fear we brought a priest in the house for prayer, but she continued to be afraid and at some point I suggested that we move and live somewhere else. But she refused. Then one day she asked me if I had a picture of me. I queried and she said it was for her mum to see someone who could tell if there is something in the house or not. I told her I don’t want her to do these things. But she didn’t listen and her mum went to see this person (for me it’s a sorcerer). When she told me about it, I got angry coz I don’t believe in these things. That person told her that there were ghosts in this house. She eventually went to see a second sorcerer and we eventually had to vacate the house coz she believed what these persons were telling her. Even though she didn’t listen to me when I told her not to go to these places she still went there. I kind of forgive her for that. Then, we came to live with my parents and after 2 days a fight broke out and my parents who had heard enough of what she was saying about sorcerer reacted to her. She eventually left the house and we are now living with our parents separately for the last couple of weeks. After she left I told her that I think we should end the relation. Since then she had not had any contact with me, nor tried to find a way to get back. We met a few days ago and she admit her mistakes but refuses to come back to live with my parents. What do u think I should do?
Your gut feel is right. I too feel this marriage will not work out. She seems to be having lots of issues. Looks like she is extremely into ghosts and stuff too. Even if you get back the same things will repeat coz this has been embedded into her probably right from childhood.
Jamie - your wife is ill. She exhibits behavior of a person with mental problems.
Insist that she get help before you even consider taking her back.
Your life will be full of misery with a woman who acts like this.
It doesn't sound like anything in your newly wedded marriage can ever be resolved, unless your blushing bride seeks some professional help. Between ghosts and goblins and, paranoia and sexual hangups, it is quite clear that your "dear " is emotionally unstable, and needs some desperate help.
Let her go for now. You need time to do some serious soul searching. This marriage is on the rocks, and I believe, even if it Is "for better, or for worse, " "sickness and in health," if she refuses to go seek medical attention, then there is no----"till death do us part."