Long distance dilema
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. I am 6 years older than him. We are currently in a long distance relationship while he finishes school. I trust him completely. Up until last week we had an amazing relationship great communication and everything. We are completely in love I know he is my soul mate weve talked about marriage and children..last week he got a call from a girl he had a fling with prior to uS meeting she tells him that shes 5 months pregnant and he's probably the father. Everything has been upside down then.he asked me for a little time to try and figure things out, he doesn't want to be with her that he loves me and wants to be with me.I told him I'm not running I don't care if It does turn out to be his kid I love him besides I have a son from a previous marriage.I'm trying really hard to give him time and space but its really hard.I'm so lost without him he's my other half I'm so used to talking to him everyday all day.yesterday I called him because I got jealous and insecure because of this whole situation and feeling like I'm alone and in the dark. We got into a huge fight he was so furious said that I didnt trust him or believe all of the wonderful things his said and felt all this time.I'm not a crazy insecure person. I'm very understanding and not naggy but this whole thing has thrown me.I'm afraid now that I may have pushed him away. I love him more than anything and can't imagine my life without him.I want so bad to call or text him.I feel like I'm going crazy and I just don't know what to do that's why I'm here. Any insight would be appreciated
If he's your true soul mate, then you have nothing to worry about. If your relationship is true, it will stand this test.
You should be able to contact him anytime, especially when you're long distance. He should be leaning on you for support while he deals with his past fling.
Importantly, he should be thinking of you and the effects of the issue on your relationship. He should be talking constantly to you to reassure you it's all ok.
And if you're overcome with angst (understandable) about the situation, then he should be able to accept your outburst without becoming furious because if he really knows you, then he'll know, just as you stated, that you're not a crazy insecure person.
You've left the ball in his court but if your relationship is solid, it'll bounce back to you.
But don't forget,...4 months is early days...
Why should he be angry with you? Its your right to be pacified and confirmed. If he sure he wants to be with you, whats that he needs to figure out? Does he mean if its not his kid he is with you and if its his kid, he wants to be with her? If he considers you as his soulmate he would be emotionally dependent on you at this time of crisis? Why is he distancing himself from you? Like the above posts, I too feel 4 months is not sufficient to decide on a soulmate.