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I have been married to my husband since March of 2012. We have a 3 yr old son and I am 6 months pregnant with a little girl. I work full time and go to school part time and will be in nursing school come august. I found out in February of 2013 that my husband had cheated on me with two different girls January of 2012, just two months before we got married. I also found out that he had done some coke with some of his friends. I decided not to tell him that I knew about it. Then I caught him drinking and doing come with his friends in December of 2013 and I blew up and told him I knew everything. He cried and pleaded for me to stay and promised he would never hurt me again. I stayed and chose to forgive him. Then just this past Friday we were hanging out with friends and I my husband went off for a while. When I found him he was passed out in the shed. I tried to wake him and he was very disoriented. I then found out that on top of the beers and liquor he had consumed he also to 7 Xanax. He did come to and of course could not walk or talk right but he went on a rant on me. He told me that he has done coke numerous times and that he doesn't love me anymore and that he doesn't want me and a lot more things. Next day he was still pretty messed up but he went off and wanted to be by himself. Today he broke down and cried to me telling me the same things he did before. I just don't know what I need to do. I love home so much but. Don't want to be stupid. My son loves his daddy so much and my daughter will be here in august right before I start nursing school. Please help me!

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You husband needs professional help. He sounds depressed, an alcoholic, and a drug user. You are not going to be able to help him until he gets some outside help. You have your hands full with your child and baby on the way and upcoming school. (Perhaps this is all threatening to your husband, who knows?) He sounds like your fourth "project", not a husband. Insist on him getting help.

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Hi I think your hubby is unwell and may have depression you mention prescribed drugs???? as well as illegal , and excessive alcohol use that you know off mind you.... he is on a downward slope. He will drag you down with him...... You have two kids to think off also on your own by the looks of things anyway..... he does not seem to be an addition. Go to local GP to start with they will refer your husband to somewhere he can get help. From then on focus on you and the kids.

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Sounds like you should leave him and take your son away until he (or if he) sorts himself out he is a bad role model for your kid(s) what happens if he is on drugs and lets something happen to them? and to cheat on you when your already have kids and not just once twice? (that u know of) and still go through with the wedding omg.. ppl saying oh poor him he may be depressed etc yes true he may be but thats NO excuse to be allowed to do all that kinda stuff he has f*cked up pure and simple I would leave him he has no respect for u of his family and if u stay he will make a fool of you. If he cleans up then let him still see his kids but really I would never take him back personally. And i know cos ur home is nice and u got another baby on way it seems 'easier' to wanna stay n work it out but the BEST option to do is sometimes the hardest unfortunately. Good luck

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