You may feel that he is a jerk now, but . . .
how did this morph into breaking up?
(Did he think "Gee she's mad. Maybe I should just leave"?)
This is a very stressful time. Make no decisions now.
I do understand your point that some people don't know how to deal or approach some situations like this but having said that seeing the state I was in I don't think a stranger would have passed me and left me on my own. As for the leaving me part he tells me at least once a week he doesn't want to be with me and to take the hint but then next day he says he loves me. Don't get me wrong I can hold me own but really don't know what to do.
As for your partner, I feel its probably not selfishness that has him behave this way. I agree that what he did was stupid(but some men can be that way when emotional turmoil takes place). But it more looks to me that he is so emotionally dependent on you that he is fighting a war within himself. One one side you were busy with the hospital trips and he was feeling left out. Must have been getting him to realize that he is so dependent on you, which he might not be liking. On one side he wants you beside him and on the other wants to be more independent of you. He is probably feeling nasty for thinking this way and hence negativity is flowing out of him. Also he probably he hadn't realized the closeness you felt for your Granddad.
What you can probably do is just leave him alone to get his thoughts straight. Let him realize what is it that he wants to do with the relationship. Give him a time frame to think well and then both sit down and decide what you both want to do. Tell him once a week condition and taking hint and all is just nonsense and is not acceptable to you. If possible stay away from him for few days so that you both have a clearer picture of what you both want to do.
This thread has expired, but why not create your own?