My boyfriend goes on trips with his ex
I've been with my boyfriend for just over a month and have been seeing each other for 3 months, I've known him for years and also his ex. They have a child together, but also have one on the way. They still go on trips with each other, and he's also going away with her for two days. He says that he don't love her, he does it to just see his child, he's scared that she will stop him seeing his children. I completely understand that they need to talk and see each other, but days out and holidays?! I don't see the kid or my boyfriend when he as him. My boyfriend says he's besotted with me, and cares for me a lot. He's not said the three magic words, I don't expect him to yet, but is it cause he's still in love with his ex?! Am I just being really jealous, and think that he can see his child and take him out without her? He's always said he stayed with her for his kid, but now there's another one on the way, makes it ten time worse!
It seems like you have a loving heart and broad mind to trust people. Your years acquaintance with your boyfriend may be a factor contributing to this fact. 3 months after the break up for any one is not a long enough to completely forgo a relationship, especially the girl is having his child and carrying one. But at the same time your bf also has to try and convince you that he is letting it go. You have to talk to him what he intend to do about the kids if the you are in for a LTR. He should slowly start introducing you to his kids and also have a chat with his ex on the future arrangements. In my opinion you should slowly and gently nudge him towards disclosing a plan of action.