Issues regarding relationship
I am into a relationship from past 4 years and will complet 5 years in in two months...Both of us are serious for each other,n he loves me a lot bt when i talk about future marriage he gets worried and he says will think about it later i cant say what will happen in future.Like most of the Indian boys hes scared of his parents as his parents are against intercast love marriage.I always tell him dat il convince my parents and his also.But he says that he wants his parents to happily accept both of us only then he will marry me.I Love him a lot and i cant even think of marrying someone else, wen i am givving him a future commitment y cant he also?...hes always worried about what will happen in future.We wil get married in 4-5 yrs rit now we r in the settling stage..Is it so easy for him to leave me in a 6-8 yrs relation...this relly hurts me a lot but he gets angry wen i talk about this, n he says theres a lot of time in marriage dnt think abt future rit nw..i feel like suciding...i cnt take dis nymore.... i am a very sensitive n emotional girl...
Dear Nishu, you are in a half committed relationship. The commitment is from your side not his. He only enjoys the time together with you. His first priority is and will always be his parents and social stand. He will not go against all odds to hold your hand.
You can convince your parents but how can you convince his when he himself is not taking a stern stand?
Nishu as hard as it might seem, you cannot think of a future with this person. You can be with him till you feel you have made yourself strong enough to move forward and face a future with or without him.
Suicide? For what? For such a person who has the nerve to tell you he loves you but doesn't have the courage to accept it in front of even his parents? Nishu, life doesn't only consist of him and there are so many others who love you. You will give all of them grief for such a person?
Its not the time to think of suicide. Its the time to be strong and take a good decision for yourself. Tell him either he accepts you or you are breaking off.
Come on, you are a strong girl, aren't you? You have the guts to stand upto your parents, the society and if necessary ready to face his too. Get that inner strength out now and put on a tough stand coz if he won't accept you in future after spending many more years together how hurt will you be then? Its now or never for a decision. If you would like to email me you can do so at shivangisanghvi at gmail dot com.
Its like sometimes he talks abt our future wil do this after marriage do dat....bt all of a sudden sometimes he gets scared of this thing...That i cnt give u d assurity wa may happen in future..Wen m telling him ur parents wil get convince hes always scared of his dad n mum...bcuz nobody has ever done a love marriage in his family...He says he wil convince his parents give his 100% still nuthing happened then he cnt do nything..he gets scared wen he thinks of dat situation of leaving me...bt on the oder side he wont go against his parents nly wen they fully get convinced den hel marry....this relly confuses me dat wa actually he wants...n hurts me evrytimewe discus abt this...CONFUSED MAN.... !!