To move or not
I've been with my boyfriend for 16 months . We plan on moving in together this summer . I love my boyfriend and he loves me . I have 2 children from my previous marriage that ended 3 years ago . I have 2 issues that keep coming up . The first is he lives 6 hours away from me and he can't leave so I'm moving there. The second issue is I can't get a man that I dated 2 years ago out if my head. Every time I get overwhelmed by the decision to move I think about the other man. He was what I considered to be perfect for me but he didn't think so . I keep thinking that I need to see if the feelings are still there and go see him . Then I feel guilty for wanting to know . I also think that this old boyfriend would be an easier choice . I love my boyfriend and when we are together I'm happy . Should I take the chance to see if my ex still has feelings ? If I don't then how do I let go of him forever ? Should I go and leave behind my silly dreams of my ex ?
As the previous poster said in not so many words, where are your priorities? You only owe it to your children and to yourself to find a safe and secure environment.
Looking back over your shoulder is an indication of an insecure person in an insecure environment. Your current BF isn't offering this, no matter how happy you feel when together, otherwise you wouldn't be thinking of your ex.
You need to look ahead rather than look back and you need to give your children priority because if you're happy, then they will be happy as well.