I need to learn how to be more vulnerable
So this is my first post on this website and I didn't know if I should put this in the family and relationship one or the emotional one so I just decided emotional. I would really appreciate some of your advice. I've dated some people in the past and they were really nice, the kind of people to have a longer relationship with. But the problem is, the closer they want to get, the further separated I get. I just can't help it. I've done it a few times now. I want to show them my vulnerable, emotional side, and I know I have to if I want a longer, more trusting, emotional relationship but I just don't know how. Can someone please give me advice and tips, maybe your own experiences, on how to be more vulnerable and emotional? Thank you.
Hi there! opening up to people takes time and its not always a bad thing to be able to handle your emotions and vulnerability well. By being more vulnerable I am assuming you mean more open with someone or saying things like I love you maybe. Trust and emotional attachment takes time and needs work. I think its maybe something that just begins to flow in a longer relationship as you get to know and maybe fall in love with the person. If you dated some people for a while and you really liked them and want to be more open to them then let them know your feelings more, if you don't like something just say it, if your scared about something say it! if you feel like giving the person a hug just do it. Let each other know what stages your at in the relationship somehow. Like I said it just flows. Make sure the person you open up to is someone you trust because when someone is vulnerable they can get their feelings hurt and it hurts 300 times more when your close with them. Hope I kind of helped :)
It's all about Trust.
If you lack the ability to trust (like being let down by the adults in your childhood) then you will have trust issues in love, especially self love.
To love others, you must first love yourself - then you will be able to give freely to another person.