Signs of a rebound?
I want to know signs of a rebound.
Me and my ex fiance dated for two years she left me jan 28th we went no contact for a week and sh contacted me crying and how she just needs time to get over things. I feel ahe wasnt attracted to me anymore since i got really fat during thw relationship. She met some guy the first week of febrauary. And they started dating in march. Hes completely opposite of me in every way possible. She told me two weekends ago that she thinks when she realizes her love for me ill be moved on. Weve been no contact for a week now since she told me to move on but she was in a really bad mood at the time and on her pwriod so dont really know if it makes that much of a difference. Our relationship was not bad we had amazing memories together. Also after we broke up we bascially were doing the same things we did while we were dating except sex. I stopped hanging out there the second week of april. But also, i dont get why she went into something so quick. It makes no sense. Also she said on easter how she hopped into something new and isnt really rhinking about it right now.
I need help, i want to get her back, ive been no contact since she changed her number, so what should i do to get her back?
Hi You sound like you really miss her..... ending of relationships are always painful and even more so when you are the one left behind and they have moved on.
You come across as someone feeling quiet low understandably so. The after the breakup when you both remained friends was a stage of denial for you..... still having one foot in can make you believe you can return to the comfort of that relationship.
This denial is broken, she has moved on..... you clearly care for her much more than she does for you. And that is hard to hear right? and hard to take in how someone you shared love with could be so cruel. You want her to see you again...take it all away and stop the hurt.
You cannot get her back,she is gone along time and you are still left with all the feelings. It must be confusing, and possibly some anger, rejection,hurt betrayal.From your story I know I would feel those things.
You are lost Troyalan1996,you no longer are part of couple, you are exposed and its just you again. That can be daunting and scary. I remember when my relationship ended after 9 years...it was tough. It was like a bereavement, a loss of a part of your life and how you existed before.
You have to learn how to survive again for a little while, you will come through it, you want to go back and you will remain stuck here if you do not move forward.
If you remain stuck you will destroy everything in your future relations. You will blame her ,and you will become bitter.
Don't do that to yourself......
You love/loved her right, then let her go. Remember the fond memories and walk out into the world and carry your wisdom that you will have gained from this relationship.
I no that last thing you want to hear is 'you will love again' it used to bug me how short sited people were..... but one day you will get to a place in your thoughts where you will feel hopeful again. Just sit it out and hold on, you have many wonderful experiences AHEAD......
Dude - she won't see or talk to you, changed her phone number and has a new boyfriend. What more do you need to figure out she is not coming back?
Why did your sex life fall apart and why did you gain so much weight? (Sounds like someone who plays too many video games)
Try to figure out what's going on in YOUR life.